I am a mother of two boys, a 16 year old, and an 8 year old who is a special needs child with an auditory disability. i have been with my boyfriend now for 2 years and he has full custody of his two daughters a 4 year old and a 6 year old. at firts my son was not accepted that well but my boyfriend is a great person and eventually realized that if he loved me he needed to accept my son. now i only have my boys half the time since i have shared custody. he has his girls full time and we barely have any time together as a couple. i have dealt with this and i have been super nice to both of these girls since their mother left to columbia. they both love me but the 4 year old girl is out of control. she spits, throws fits, pinches my face, hits her dad, calls him stupid, interrupts us constantly. i dont know what to do it is driving me crazy. i love him so much and i am trying so hard here. when my son comes over the girls take over and they tell him that the toys are theirs that he better do this and better do that. my son most of the time leaves crying because he does not understand he has the mentality of a 4 year old as well.

i tell him that he needs to correct the problem and that he needs to have some form of discipline he finally agreed but he is totally manipulated by the 4 year old girl. i would swear that is not her real age she does things that make her act a lot older. she even showed her private parts to my son and then said it was him when my son is even embarrased to go to the dr. and hides when he is in underwear. finally we saw her doing it and he realized it was her but he was willing to end the relationship cuz he thought it was my son. she tells her dad i hit her and lies about everyone to get them in trouble. this is her personality she even says she wants to kill the ducks and chases them to do so. what can i do? does anyone have advise for me? i love this man but i dont know how much more i can handle.