omg! what a nightmare! I think you were right on the money to tell your BF that if he is not going to be there during her visits that neither will she. And it sounds like this girl needs some pyschiatric help pronto! what kind of excuses can be made for this type of behavior???

Aw man… I couldn’t put up with the poop and pee thing… she’s flippin 11 years old and behaving like this?!? Has she been clinically evaluated..? What possible excuses could there be for doing that when you’re 11 years old..? Maybe an accident in bed here or there, but jeeze louise, I’d say that’s a HUGE problem. Is she pissing on the floor at her moms or in school too..? Cause dude, if it’s just your house you’ve got a creepy little sociopath on your hands… lying, stealing and “marking her territory” are really bad signs in a kid so young… get her help. Get your boyfriend help… you need to let him know this is NOT acceptable behavior.

Good luck and best wishes…

agree, professional help , she cant continue living like this.or you. What does her father say about the toilet issue? Her grandparents?

Sorry you feel attacked. I don’t think anyone means it that way.

But I do understand why they feel that way. I have BTDT. I would not live with or marry my DH for 8ish years because of SS. I did not want my kids exposed to SS on a regular basis. I also did not my kids to think the way DH was raising his son, was OK.

We lived a few blocks from each other for all of that time and it worked out beautiful! You don’t have to kill your relationship just for you and your daughter to have some kind of peace. Just something to think about.

This sounds like the beginning of psychosis or maybe conduct disorder .. especally given the animal abuse.
I think she needs an evaulation by a Psychologist or Psychiatrist to get a clear picture of the real problem.

The problems with excrement, and animal abuse are beyond a counselor's scope. Love does not cure all problems.

All the best to you, good luck

When she pees in a cup, POUR IT ON HER PILLOW!!!!!!!!!, When she craps in the shower PUT THE TURD ON HER PILLOW!!!!!!!!! or just rub her nose in in like you would a puppy you are house training.

This crap is just sick. If she was my Skid she would have blistered ass 24/7 from a belt for the behavior you describe.

The first time she abused my younger children or pets would be the last.

She may be able to make home life unpleasant but I am a master at making incorrigible young dipshits MISERABLE!!!!! }:)

After about three weeks of sleeping on the bed slats, not bathing in my bathrooms because she obviously is not capable of using them responsibly, standing at attention with her nose firmly planted in a corner any time she was in my home, eating her meals sitting on the front six inches of her very hard wodden chair, wearing a burlap bag and worn out shower flip flops to school she would get the hint that she will treat my home, my pets and my family with absolute respect. If she wants the benefits of belonging to the family then she better damned well behave like it.

If you live in one of those communities that allow you to dump your kids at the fire station with no legal repricussions I would just donate her to the local fire department!

For God's sake this is a 13yo not a 2yo.

GRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am only partly kidding about SOME of these responses to her absolutely unacceptable behavior.

My condolences on having to live with this POS kid and best regards,

I don't have any kids with DH and I left (2 weeks ago). SS pooped on a bed once when he was 7, then drew pictures of himself pooping. Im pretty sure he peed on things too but I can't prove that. DH and BM did nothing about it. Read my blogs, I didn't feel safe and DH wouldn't back me and makes excuses. In DH's words...SS10 "is fine". This will just get worse if she doesn't get help now.