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OT Profile of a Pedophile

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Submitted by neudoll on Fri, 08/13/2010 - 9:44am

I felt compelled to log in here and post this. There was recently a blog on here that scared the crap out of me. It was like my abuser was reaching out from 20 years ago and this letter.

TRUST ME, this blog was dripping with innapropriateness and if this blog can possibly prevent some innocent little girl from being scarred for life than it was worth it.

PROFILE OF A PEDOPHILE:

Often the pedophile is male and over 30 years of age.

Single or with few friends in his age group.

If married, the relationship is more "companion" based with no sexual relations.

The abuser never thinks he is doing anything wrong and that they "love" their victim.

He is often vague about time gaps in employment which may indicate a loss in employment for questionable reasons or possible past incarceration.

Pedophiles Like Child-like Activities:
He is often fascinated with children and child activities appearing to prefer those activities to adult oriented activities.

He will often refer to children in pure or angelic terms using descriptives like innocent, heavenly, divine, pure, and other words that describe children but seem inappropriate and exaggerated.

He has hobbies that are child-like such as collecting popular expensive toys, keeping reptiles or exotic pets, or building plane and car models.

Pedophiles Often Prefer Children Close to Puberty:

Comments

starfish's picture

Submitted by starfish on Fri, 08/13/2010 - 10:58am

ditto:

"You go right ahead and "project" whatever you want. You have experience with a person like this, and sharing your knowledge may help other people recognize this sick behavior in someone who is close to their children. I thought a certain blog was creepy as well."

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Submitted by buttercookie on Fri, 08/13/2010 - 11:34am

I feel bad for victims of sexual abuse but you can't label all men who are nice or care for female children as pedophiles. If that was the case my adopted dad (step dad) would have been unfairly labeled. I was the only girl in a five children family. I was spoiled some by my dad, no sexual abuse happened. He enjoyed buying me clothes, showing me how to fish, hunt, etc (he did these things with my brothers too) While I'm not saying sexual abuse doesn't happen in some step families (or even other families) its certainly NOT happening in all. While I see the concern I don't find it fair to label anyone just because they care about a child of the opposite sex.

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Submitted by buttercookie on Fri, 08/13/2010 - 5:21pm

AFTER I posted this I saw what was concerning others and I can understand the concern

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Submitted by jojo68 on Fri, 08/13/2010 - 12:02pm

Good (normal in my eyes) scenario:

SF: I love my stepdaughter...she's a good kid. Her dad isn't around much for her so I try to help her mother out as much as I can, they even drag me along to some of school functions...I have to admit they aren't so bad...LOL

Not good (not normal in my eyes) scenario:

SF: I love how I feel when M looks at me with her big eyes, hugs me, and most recently says that she loves me.
We talk, laugh, cry, and make love together. We are a family.
Never in a million years would I have imagined I'd be in love with a woman and her a child.

Where is Rags???? We need a dude's point of view on this I think...