Happy Wednesday! I've not been on ST in a couple of weeks mainly because I've been busy with my new PT job that has FT hours and have also been running my small business. Which I'm not complaining at all about because honestly I've been focused on ME (bold double underline ME!!). And...because I have informed my FH that he is to deal exclusively with his crap of an xwife and rude kids, that I had enough of the abuse from all three (bm, two daughters). I told him I would be here to support him and OUR relationship and would do anything for US. Suddenedly, my life became much simpler! I work 7 days a week the only time I devote to the skids is eowe Friday when I leave work early to pick them up. Oh, yeah I make dinner once or twice, which after this past weekend I'm going to have to rethink that too.

You see, I've had to change my way of dealing with my situation not because I want to be mean or unkind, but because it was making me angry that as much as I did no one seemed to appreciate it and in fact was taking more and more liberties with me and my kindness. Now, I come first, my relationship 2nd and everything else after that. Before I was running arround making things happen for FH and his xfamily because I wanted everything to be good for the girls because they make him happy. But I started observing a pattern, one that distrubed me...I was cooking, cleaning, chasing details of who did what to who and when to have evidence for when not if we went to court, I worried daily about all the harrassing calls bm makes to FH and the relentless texts she sends, so much so I gave up my phone to FH to give him some peace of mind only for him to turn around and tell his daughters I had his phone and that's why he didn't get the calls one Saturday! Yep...I regardless of what I did and do was being blamed for things that well, I shouldn't be. I'm the escape goat.

Well, no more. I took myself right out of the equation. I got my phone back, told FH deal with your shit, told step daughters don't count on me to make you lunch, dinner or to solve your disputes with each other, don't tell me about what your mother does or doesn't allow you to do or say, because this is my house and my rules apply. If you don't understand the rules ask. If you can't obey the rules then don't come back until you can.

Then by the grace of God and the all mighty universe I worked all weekend and FH had to deal with his crappy past all by himself.

Don't get me wrong, I love him very much but I don't have to love or deal with his past just because he doesn't or because he won't or because he can't or because he refuses to or because he asks my opinion and then does the complete opposite and then excuses his behavior by saying it was because of the kids. Really?! Then keep going down that path all on your own, because I don't have to hold your hand as you go down the path only to have you say... Oh, I should have listened to you!

Anyway, life has been busyand it's been great...for ME!!!