Once everything gets ironed out, FH needs to constantly hold the court order in her face. If she doesn't let the kids see him and withholds visitation, he needs to call the cops and she can be found in contempt of court. I think it was Rags who said that court orders are meant to keep people like BM and his wife's ex's family in line, or something to that effect. Keep taking her to court every time she doesn't adhere to it. The judge will get tired of seeing her and her not abiding by it.

Good for your DH. Yes, I believe that the CO is to smack the shit out of the ignorant blended family opposition if they decide to get stupid. The key is to use it brutally, consistently and often and to stick to exactly to what it says no matter what.

It is even better if you enjoy baring their ignorant asses every chance you get and in court if they do not do what they are told when they are told to do it.

My wife and I have each kept a copy of the Custody/Visitation/Support CO in our desks at work for years. Every time the SpermIdiot or SpermClan called her she would conference me in, we would both read the judgement and respond to their stupid crap. After IMing started I would IM her while listening to her conversations with the SpermClan. That way she could focus on what they were saying and I could feed her my opinion and exact extracts from the CO (eg. P-3 L-17) in response to their comments.

It got to the point that whey would argue about stuff that was clearly covered in the judgement "well the judge/lawyer I clean house for said ......." then blow their stacks when we said "the judgement is clear I don't care what the person you clean toilets for says, if you can't understand that then we will see you in court". Their ending statement was always something along the lines of "YOU WOULD LIVE TO GO BACK TO COURT WOULDN'T YOU???? BITCH!". CLICK!

We always won once we had a CO in place. The person who sticks with the judgement and keeps their cool always wins in my experience.

Enjoy baring BM's idiot ass every chance she gives you.

I think it's really funny because after telling H that she would NOT go legal in regards to custody, BM served H with papers on SS12's birthday, during his party (her specialty is ruining special celebrations), and told him that if he left me she would drop the custody suit! She also brought her brain-addled sister with her because she is a total coward and doesn't have the guts to do that kind of thing on her own. The funny part, I think, is that after being a total bitch about custody and wasting a lot of time, energy and money, she has no clue what the custody order says and constantly asks H what the schedule is because she has no clue. H recently got irritated with her and told her that she needs to look up the custody information herself and she said that she doesn't know where her copy of the order is! She also frequently asks us to take the skids during her custody time because she can't seem to arrange childcare or get her act together. Up until recently, we almost always agreed to take the children, but our lawyer told us that we need to tell her that she needs to agree to the new custody schedule (which would give us custody of the skids during the times that BM most frequently asks us to take them) or stop asking us to take them during that time. BM wants her cake and to stuff her face with it too and basically wants us to have the skids during the time that we want them anyway, but doesn't want the child support lowered or eliminated, as it would be if we had custody of those times.

She basically wants free childcare at no notice and at her whims, but doesn't want to give up any control or lose the child support. We have an extremely organized file with all the papers, all letters to and from BM, and all the documentation of various issues we have had with her and she can't even find her copy of the custody order! She is going to get screwed and her lack of organization and responsibility will only hurt her case and help ours. It's annoying, but in the end we will leave her head spinning and she won't know what hit her. We have planned out a careful strategy for our case and are prepared to go to court and have a fantastic lawyer and she has no idea, isn't prepared and doesn't have the resources to fight us. Unfortunately for her, you can't pay a lawyer with sexual favors, even if she doubled bagged it or got extreme plastic surgery...