First the reason behind the call..and sorry for this being so long.. The past week things have been not so good with me and FDH. We had a horrible fight on Saturday and on Sunday, we talked, didn't really get everything worked out, but it was a start. Talked a little more on Monday and then Tuesday it all hit the fan. He asked me to come over and I told him that if there was going to be yelling and screaming (between him and his kids) that I had just gotten rid of a migraine and really didn't want to be around that. He got all upset and hung up the phone on me. Well, that did it for me, I drove over to his house and walked in (his kids weren't around at that time) and handed him the ring and said if you can not talk like a rational adult, then take your ring, write me a check (I put money into the extra bedroom /bathroom we built) and we'll call the cell phone company and get you on your own account, I'm done. He started yelling and doing the whole blame game (of course none of it was HIS or HIS KIDS fault), all mine because I wanted peace and quiet and not all the drama of kids who have no rules, boundaries, etc and he says that he will not have it where his kids don't want to live with him. Ok, so don't, then you can continue to live like this, but I have a choice, and I will NOT continue to live like this and be controlled by your kids (he has a daughter who is 15 & a son who is 17). Well, at that time, his son walks in right in the middle of those comments and and I look at FDH and tell him that we need to go out to the garage and finish this conversation. So we go out side and are continuing our 'heated' discussion and his daughter walks out there and asks if we are breaking up that she doesn't want us to, blah, blah, blah. He tells her that yes, it is a possibility and that she needs to go back inside and let us talk. We talked for about an hour or so, again nothing solved or decided. I told him I was leaving and we'd talk more later. We've talked since then, but not about all this, that will happen this weekend when his kids go back to BM's.

Tonight, on my drive home from work, his mom called me. I wasn't sure if I should answer it or not, but I did. She told me how sorry she was that all this was happening and she knew something was wrong because I haven't been around all last weekend and this week (they're a very close family and on the weekends we usually get together at least one day). She said that FDH was over at her house the other day with his kids and that his daughter was just completely disrespectful and that she (FMIL) told her so and told her that she needed to straighten up. She also continued to tell her that she doesn't want her dad to be happy, that she's selfish and self centered (which she is) and his daughter (sorry can't bring myself to call her FSD at this moment) says well it doesn't matter if they get married anyway, it's not like SHE loves him and he doesn't love her. FMIL looked at her and said why would you say that and then FDH looked at her and said where did you get that I don't love lost hope??? Of course the brat didn't answer. Some words were said I guess and they left to go home. FDH was off of work yesterday to have the carpet installed in the new bedroom and went to his mom & dad's house for lunch and according to FMIL, she went off on him and so did FFIL. They both asked him if he was willling to let me go because he can't discipline his kids. Where was he going to be once they went away to college and got their own places and started their own family???? She told him that he would be a very lonely old man, because they sure as heck won't be around for him. (which is very, very true).

After telling me all this and saying that both her & FFIL jumped all over him and told him he needed to start disciplining his kids and that if they (the kids) chose to go live at BM's full time then it just goes to show what they are really like. But that is FDH's biggest fear..... so I already know he will NOT allow that, unless he really sees the light and see's that they are just munipulating him. She said she would understand if I couldn't put up with this anymore, because she was just as fed up as I was with his kids. She also told me that if FDH didn't do something to stop me from leaving, then he was a stupid, stupid person. She told me that she hoped to see me this weekend, especially since his kids would be at BM's house and not around. We hung up after about 45 minutes.

WOW...... was all I could think after we hung up. Her and I have come soooo far, she hated me after FDH were dating for about 1 1/2 years and for almost 2 years made our relationship very difficult but then we finally started getting along and have been for the last 1 1/2 years. FDH and I have been together for 5 years this new years eve. She is a great person with a big heart but watch out... don't get on her bad side. I really do hope that her & his dad were able to really make things sink in and make him really think about things. One can only hope I guess.