Tried to start a holiday tradition with skids....
I wanted to say thank you to everyone who provided me with good ideas on starting traditions in my home with the skids. I decided on a couple things and yesterday made my first attempt: I bought each girl an ornament that I thought reminded me of them. I figured that I would get an ornament each year for them and then when they are older, they can take them to their tree. I was actually looking forward to giving them these ornament gifts.
SD3 was excited - she is 3 - to put her ornament on the tree - it was very cute. She thanks me and shows her daddy, my DH.
SD12 says, "Oh, I thought I would get to pick out my own ornament. I guess this is fine."
I am not going to let this negative attitude ruin the holiday plans I am trying to make...wish me luck, I watch them this weekend while DH has to work (not his normal schedule) and I am making holiday cookies. I hope this activity goes well.
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Good luck! Hopefully SD12
Good luck! Hopefully SD12 isn't the type to say that you aren't making them the way her mother does, or that she doesn't like those kind of cookies. I get that with somethings, but not with cooking. Luckily our BM doesn't cook
I do this too. Each year DH
I do this too.
Each year DH and I pick out an ornament that represents what the boys are into.
My family does the pickle ornament too. This has become our tradition. Each year I hide the pickle ornament, usually right before Christmas Eve when the boys are at BM's. Then whoever finds the pick first gets an extra gift. Usually it's candy or an ornament. My SSs love this.
Although this year SS13 made BM buy a pickle ornament so they can do it at her house too. I know I should be flattered by it but I was sad about it because now it's not our "thing" since they're doing it with BM too.
~BettyRay
Preteens are the worst..so
Preteens are the worst..so emotional, so self centered. I wonder - because I don't have any biokids - are preteens disrespectful to their bio parents as often? I feel like I get the brunt of it, but it could very well be that she is like that at home with her BM too....I don't know. I do know that this age is not fun at all.
That was rude. I would have
That was rude. I would have taken it back to the store & she would have gotten nothing.
I thought so too...I am
I thought so too...I am almost completely disengaged with her. I really thought: I will try one more time, but no more. I am just going to continue to do my planned fun Christmas stuff and if she wants to join: fine. If not, I don't care.
I did make the decision to talk with her about her tude should she pull that again with me. Sigh.
Ugh...that is such a horrible
Ugh...that is such a horrible age for girls. Mine grew out of that as soon as they started high school.
I have a SD and a DD...both
I have a SD and a DD...both are going to 14 in January. Yes, the attitude comes from just being pre-teen. Even my own daughter...who gets plenty of discipline...attempts to be disrespectful from time to time (I don't allow it to continue, though).
I encourage you to look past that attitude and continue building your own traditions with the skids. We have a few traditions throughout the year and I have always included the skids (I have been in their lives since SS was 1 1/2--now 12 and SD was 3 now almost 14) and I found out that they enjoy these traditions as much as I do. Christmas break is spent baking and the kids LOVE decorating the cookies for Santa (even though they don't even believe in Santa anymore). Another tradition is the kids deliver the cookies to our neighbors--which they greatly enjoy, too.
Hang in there and try not to let the attitude upset you (easier said than done...I know), you are creating memories...and you never know what memories a child will grow up to cherish...