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tjax's picture

We will be talking the BM to court once again for keeping the kids from visting.

Does anyone know a Sprint phone that does screen shots of all the texts, a couple of people said this really helped them in court. We are going to need them. Sprint told us the phone we just got has that capability but it doesn't.

I know there is a site called treasuremytext.com but it cannot be used in court in FL.

Thanks Everyone.
Tina

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somerg's picture

thaks for posting that! i need to get a better form of keeping my texts for a court to will check that web site out!

caya506's picture

SO's phone won't do this either and when we forward them to an e-mail account the original sender doesn't show. So, what I have done is use a digital camera. Take the phone into a dark room and take a picture of the screen showing each text. You can put those on your computer and print them out to take with you. It can be a little time consuming but it's the only thing that has worked for me so far.

Fancy143's picture

There is also a privacy act with a lot of phone companies which prevents them from giving you detailed text message logs. I just recently looked into that. Do you have part custody? My husband and I are dealing with the same situation right now. We are facing taking her to court after she has recently blocked us BOTH (father included) from all of my Step daughters phones, we cannot call or text them.

tjax's picture

No we are in the lovely state of Florida, they do not have joint custody....so to speak, you have custodial and non
custodial parents. We are the non.

She is crazy and hurtful to her own children and it needs to be documented.

mom2five's picture

Did your attorney suggest that you keep them? I've seen people spend hundreds of hours in time (and money) saving and printing emails and texts only have the judge refuse to even glance at them.

If your attorney hasn't suggested that find a way to preserve them, ask him before you spend too much time trying to figure it out.

tjax's picture

No, but we have been told by other parents they were successful in using them in court.

I just read your Bio...so glad to meet you! So how else do you document when the BM with-holds the kids, repeatedly.

mom2five's picture

Nice to meet you as well!

We were non-custodial for years before my stepkids moved in with us. And my husband's ex was horrible about withholding visitation. We kept a calendar and just noted each time she refused visitation. If there were phone calls made, we noted the date, time, and details of the conversation.

I've heard some people say they drove to the pick-up location and bought gas (or a Coke) at a gas station near that location to show the time and date they were there.

State laws are so very different. And every judge is different. An attorney who practices in your local jurisdiction will know what type of documentation (if any) you need. I would ask your attorney. If he feels like you need those texts, he might even know the best way to save them.

PixieLove's picture

Caya506... that is a really good idea!!
I wish I could help but we are in the same situation with BM saying that he will never see SD again not even at his funeral along with numerous threatening texts. I am in FL and I think they would def take them into cosideration. They have changed it from bashing the BD's and looking further into it becasue alot of these BM only have kids to trap the men or see it as a paycheck (which is our case here)

tjax's picture

I hope your are right. It amazes me that the FL court system
doesn't acknowledge there are men out there who DO want to see their kids. And that many BM's that just want to be evil to everyone involved including their own children. My SD cries and begs her mom to see her dad. But she is so jealous,
and hateful she withholds them quite often. She even tells the kids she does it to hurt their dad. But she is hurting them also!!
The have been divorced 5 yrs. She has been remarried for 3yrs and we have been together 2yrs. How long will she continue the ugly?

aggravated1's picture

I am in Florida also, and we just got the happy, happy news that DH's judge is moving to criminal court, so DH gets a new judge for the next contempt hearing! The old judge was so pro BM it would make you vomit. it can go nowhere but better, after him.

tjax's picture

How many times have you taken her to court?

What is your experiences like? We are so unhappy with the system. My BF has never been late or missed a CS payment.
And he writes the checks. It is not taken out by the system.
But she can do whatever she wants....amazing.

aggravated1's picture

We have been 3 times, once for when she wanted to re-visit child support, so we slapped her with a cross-contempt for visitation.

The other 2 times were instigated by us, and she basically got a slap on the wrist, and told if she continued to deny visitation she could lose custody. And she had to pay her own court costs, and we had to pay ours. Our last time we went pro se', because we could not afford an attorney at the time, but it was a LOT of work. AND, BM is still denying visitation.
I sent you a private message, also-

noworries's picture

see if your phone is supported on bitpim.com. this is what we used when DH and BM were going through divorce. We had a whole expandable folder for his lawyer to go through. Bitpim shows who sent and what time it was sent, then you can export to Outlook and print.