Enforcing communication only via e-mail
did it work for you? i don't see it as alt to emergencies, however, i'm seriously trying to talk dh into this with his ex because she is constantly doing things that we need to PROVE to her what she said about any given siti and to keep them from arguing in front of the kids (she is VERY HARD to work with).
did you do this without a court order? how did it work? did it blow up in your face?
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We have done this for the
We have done this for the past 2 years with our BM. In fact, my DH is now taking her to court for contempt and the emails are helping tremendously! We started the email thing because she would call and text non stop and say things to both me and DH that needed to be documented. I highly recommend communicating through email alone unless there is an emergency. Of course or BM has our phone numbers but it does her no good to call them because we ignored it. After a few weeks of her calls and texts being ignored she finally realized that if she really needed an answer from us then she would have to send an email. She no longer calls or texts our phones.
This is the only way my
This is the only way my husband will communicate with his x. Even after 9 years, they still can not communicate with each other. The minute she hears his voice, she starts yelling. We cancelled landline service because it is redundant to have a home phone and cellphones. So, in the event of an emergency, she can text him to his phone. I don't have any dealings with her at all unless my husband becomes a weenie and I have to put my foot down about what he is and isn't going to pay for that is above and beyond because THAT directly affects me.
We don't do email however we
We don't do email however we do not answer her calls. We let them go to vm then if it is something that he needs to talk to her about he will TEXT her. He does most of his communicating by text. That has worked out very well for us as we can just show her the texts. After a while she stopped most of her crap b/c we can show her and our lawyer in black in white.
We also did this without a
We also did this without a court order and it was very successful. DH proposed it to BM such that she would benefit from always having the details from their last conversation at hand and she could prove any of DH's statements if needed. And DH no longer had to hear BM's screaching voice. It was a win-win for everybody! We started when SS was about 13-14 and continued until he turned 18. Emergencies were still discussed over the phone.
We don't do email either but
We don't do email either but we have a No Contact Order in the CO from the first time we got visitation ordered (instead of just CS ordered) because of her harassment.
She still calls occasionally (the last time to scream at H that SD16 at the time was pregnant) and sometimes it is just her screaming about something (usually to do with money) that's got her panties in a bunch.
But the NCO REALLY cut down on the day to day verbal abuse.
my dh is in the middle
my dh is in the middle (hopefully the end) of a LONG modification. However, we are SERIOUSLY considering no verbal contact because usually the problem occurs with visitation. She'll agree to something, let dh pull through with his part then deny she agreed to it in turn making it look like he is opting out AND they can never really agree to anything
think we'll give it a shot
Now that my husband's girls
Now that my husband's girls are teens, if it has to do with some sort of visitation, he usually cc's them on the email as well. This way she can't be a snot and just say no because she feels like it.
ha! i like that idea! my sd
ha! i like that idea! my sd is 14 and has an e-mail, might have him do that too! }:)
I strongly suggesting that my
I strongly suggesting that my dh does this, but he's concerned it'll start an argument. i told him when she wants to deviate from YOUR ordered visitation and you deny until she does, she'll start
Yes! We do this with BM2.
Yes! We do this with BM2. Nobody answers the phone when she calls. If she leaves an argumentative VM she gets no response. She can text in case of an emergency and DH will call her. Other than that it's email only. We didn't need a CO. We just stopped responding to any other communication. If she left a VM regarding changing the schedule, he emailed her letting her know that only changes agreed to in writing via email would be considered. Then he just refused to discuss it further. When that is the only way the BM will get a response, she will learn eventually.
That's what i'm suggesting
That's what i'm suggesting him to do
I am so jealous of you all.
I am so jealous of you all. Believe it or not, BM does not have internet access at home. She supposedly has no e-mail address & can't check it consistently.
We let all her calls go to voicemail unless it's pickup/drop off day - DH & BM's DH (got forbid she ever drive to pick up her child) meet 4 1/2 hours between them so they need to be able to coordinate.