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Submitted by discouraged on Tue, 06/21/2011 - 8:29am

So my SS7 gets up this morning asks me what he needs to do? I'm thinking great this will be a good morning. Why why why do I get my hopes up even a centimeter? As soon as I said get dressed he wigs out, starts acting like a baby and then it just spirals downhill. He is the most hateful child I have ever met and then he expects me to put his shoes on his feet? Are you flipping kidding me!!!!!!!! He is capable and he just treated me like a piece of shit! My BioD would never have done that to me. I have had enough and I'm stuck with him all day. He is the nastiest, MEANEST, child I have ever met. Thanks for listening to me vent. Needed to do that bad!!!!

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Submitted by discouraged on Tue, 06/21/2011 - 10:15am

i think i will do that next time! honestly i had to go somewhere this morning and of course had to take him with me-what a mistake. i can't stand when i go somewhere and he thinks it's great to embarrass the hell out of me. if that were my kid she would have taken one look at me and stopped - HIM he laughs and tries to get the other adults to feel bad when i give him the look are you serious. His BM did a great job teaching him how to act, talk, take a shower, eat, go to the bathroom NOT NOT NOT NOT NOT. UGH!!!!!!

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Submitted by discouraged on Tue, 06/21/2011 - 11:20am

So I put my headphones in and am totally ignoring him while he is sitting here trying to piss me off. Sucks for him cause I'm not gonna give him the time of day anymore. I'll do what a babysitter would cause THAT'S ALL I AM. I know it don'th have it as bad as other people on here and I know it's wrong for me to bitch this way because of that but I'm done talking to people that aren't step parents or even biological parents that have no clue what the hell I am going through. His dad just texted me and told me "thank you beautiful for all you do" if he only fucing knew. Cause when he gets home SS7 is a totally different kid and he gets the shits of him just as quick as I do but believe me the kid is a damn angel then-except for the snide mouthed comments and nasty as hell looks I get. I understand that I must have lived my life completely wrong to get treated like this but damn. I love my DH more than I can express but this kid will be the reason we don't make it. Everybody said oh it will get so much better when you guys get married he will have stability-WELL WHEN DOES THE BETTER START????? Seriously I didn't get remarried to get divorced when I actually love this man! Welp off to the all knowing pshychiatrist-hoping like hell that this gets him somewhere cause I'll be damned if I'm gonna deal with this forever. Sad

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Submitted by hismineandours on Tue, 06/21/2011 - 12:23pm

Well good luck to you. I know in my situation my ss got much worse. MY ss was the meanest thing alive at 7 and he is still mean as heck today at 13. The one positive is that my dh now sees it-first just years of hearing about it and occassional glimpses of it helped it to slowly sink in-then finally the tides are turning and ss has become such a smart mouthed little brat that he cannot contain it around anyone. Strangely-dh recognizing it, not playing into it with ss, supporting me and the other kids makes a world of diference. Even though ss is still mean and nasty, I find it doesnt bother me as much when dh is on the same page. (I just hopes he stays there as he has been known to wander off)

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Submitted by discouraged on Tue, 07/05/2011 - 8:46am

So, back at work and not really dealing with my ss anymore. When I am home i pretty much do nothing with him and say nothing to him. I know everyone thinks that's a cop out, and it may be. Thing is the kid has to have his ADHD meds "to be good and focus" how come this whole past weekend he didn't have one pill (he takes 2 every morning and melatonin every night) and was a perfect angel for my parents-until they pulled in the driveway at home?? Just sayin'. My husband and I along with my BioD had a wonderful time when she was home on Friday and then Sunday. It was good to spend some time with her since she gets ignored it seems for the most part (yes I know, my fault-the way I let my SS7 run my life was pathetic). Done with that business. And what's crazy is that I know darn well he plucks his Daddy's nerves just as much as mine now that I'm not around-maybe that will start to make a difference, who knows? Not really concerned with it. My kid is happy and my husband and I are for the most part...hopefully the kid catches on and realizes he can be included if he starts acting like a "normal" kid.