Hi all, just needing to vent a bit. It's been a stressful few days. But if anyone has any comments or better advice, please feel free!

For the first time in 5 years since DH and I have been together, SS11 (12 next week) is staying at BMs for 2 weeks. Since BM normally only gets SS 4 days a month, she didn't have enough clothes so she asked us to send some with him. After we first said no, she got pissy and she asked for the clothes that SHE bought him at the beginning of the school year (a couple outfits). That was pretty much the only time she's contributed to anything. We told her we wanted the clothes back... we'll see what happens! But I'm doing the jig with 2 weeks off! Woohoo!

A couple years ago, his nana (DHs mom) created him a facebook account without our knowledge. We don't allow him to get on fb but we never had him remove the account. Well, what's the first thing we see him doing when he got to his moms? FACEBOOK! Not to mention the issue with just being online, I feel so invaded. He has a couple of our friends he friended. I'm not worried about these friends but just the fact that this child is invading my life! I can't even have a conversation with a friend or DH online without this CHILD potentially being part of this conversation! (yeah I know, it's public!) I want to just delete my account. I wanted to report him as underage but I couldn't find the email address registered on his profile. I told his dad to do this but he refuses saying it's sneaky and he's not going to go behind his back. He will just tell him when he gets home in 2 weeks that he has to delete his account. But he agreed to this after a huge fight about it. DH doesn't see anything wrong with him being on facebook. But he won't divide the family on this rule (which is awesome!) because I told him I flat out refuse to allow it for my BS until he is at least 13. So, I can't wait to deal with SS being told he can't go on fb anymore after he's gotten hooked on the games for 2 wks. Meanwhile, I'm watching a family members slutty pictures being posted online and some other friend cussing up a storm saying aweful things and partying pictures of others and just cringing. Hopefully this will be over with in 2 weeks.

Last but not least... the xBox Saga has continued... Well, DHs mom, in all her wisdom (not!) and drunkeness, sent over an xBox and Kinnects (sp?) and a couple games all wrapped up for SS's birthday. The xBox was the one she had. She bought the Kinnects and the games. SS hasn't seen her in quite some time since DH was disowned after he told her SS wasn't allowed over unless she agreed to not drink. Apparently, that was too much to ask. She has not really spoken to DH in 1.5 yrs. But SS called nana a couple week ago and asked for HIS xBox (the one she bought and kept at her house). When the present was delivered by DH's stepdad and sister, we were told that that would be the last present, EVER! Whatever. Anyways, as some of you may have read my previous blogs on this, SS was trying to save up to buy his own xBox. I believe he currently has $0 as he won't do chores unless you make him. The issue was, I wanted to get xBox for xmas as we can't afford to buy a game system for one child so the gift would have been for the family (for both boys). If SS got his own, I would never be able to afford to get just BS one and he would be forced to have to save his own money if he wanted one. This really ticked me off to be put in this situation. Second, how dare his mother get such an extravegant gift for ONE child knowing there are others in the house. The others don't get gifts. I suggested have SS take the xBox to his moms, but DH doesn't think it's right to give it to BM. We didn't want to keep it just because of the problems it's going to cause. He was going to send it back to his moms and say thanks but it stays there and SS can come over anytime to play it. Except he can't because stupid nana won't commit to not drinking and getting him over there 'anytime' is a challenge. So then we'd be right back to where we are except we are the bad guys and SS doesn't get the present he asked for. I don't want that either. Uugh. Well, this morning I guess DH managed to talk to his mom or someone and was told the xBox is for the family and only the games were for SS. That's funny since all the boxes were addressed "To SS, Happy Birthday!" So, DH wants to just unwrap the xBox and say they are for the family and just give SS the games. I guess that works and solves all the problems. I guess I'm still stressed because it took an entire weekend of discussion to figure out the best solution.

Ok, I feel better now!