Hi Hun,

Sounds like you're having some of the same harsh luck we've been having. Since June my beloved cat had to be put to sleep, my partner had a motorcycle accident thanks to some irresponsible cage driver and our bike was totalled, my Mom needs a double mastectomy for breast cancer, my former FIL who I got on well with died of stomach cancer, my grandfather was diagnosed with a brain tumour and I was being bullied at work.

There were be some days you just don't wanna get up, cry your heart out and scream. It hurts hun, you'll ask yourself why this crap keeps happening to you. But remember, tomorrow is another day, what goes around comes around, and things will eventually get better. As I saw on someones signature on here "A woman is like a teabag, you only know how strong she is when you put her in hot water."

You're still here hun, so you're obviously one strong cup of tea. And when you're feeling weak, just come and moan here. We may not be able to fix everything, but at least we can listen.

*Bit of a rambling response but I'm not good at this comforting thing.*

I am sorry you are experiencing all of this. We lost our 7 year old cat last year. It didn't just get killed by A car. I hit it with MY car. I'll never forget how it made me feel.

We have also struggled with transportation, & with 2 people needing to get to different places at different times, it is hard. We are currently with 1 vehicle between DH & myself. He drops me off at work 1 1/2 hours early & he has to wait 1 1/2 hours on me in the afternoons. It SUCKS.

BM hasn't worked in the 10 years I've known her, yet just returned from a weeks vacay at the Myrtle Beach with the kids, took them out to the fair that was in town & threw a birthday blowout for SS, all within the last 4 weeks.

The last vacay DH & I took was in Oct of 2006. We spent 3 days out of town. BM's mother pays her bills...ALL of her bills. She gets $300 in foodstamps every WEEK for her & 2 kids. DH & I, both working, don't have $300 a MONTH to spend on food.

The title of your blog caught my eye. It almost sounds like a true country song.

I'm sorry all of this is happening to you. (((Hugs)))

I often have the same wonderment and it's not even just about BMs... BM#1 hasn't worked in probably 8 years and has been evicted numerous times and as of late is living in her mother's trailer with her 3 kids, SD13, and 5 other people.... Yes, 10 people living in this double wide. BM#2 is almost 37 and has never worked a full-time job in her life, is always crying poverty and playing the oh woe is me card...she is a little more stable though in that she has been with her BF for like 8 years now and at least has a part time job. But anyway, it's not like either is living the life....

This is the crap that fries my ass... SD13 needed braces, so her grandmother (that she lives with and has custody of her) was able to get Medicaid (or Care) or whatever the hell it is... to pay for the whole she-bang! Which of course means that you and I are paying for it in taxes. Well, SS12 needs braces too, so guess what... BM#2 calls SD grandmother gets all the info and now SS is getting his braces for free too. Now I work full-time and pay a hefty amount out of my check each month for health insurance. Do you think that if my BS1 needs braces down the road that I won't have to pay a dime??? Hell no! WTF is wrong with this picture.. with this world??? I am so sick of all the low lifes getting everything handed to them, while those of us who try to be productive members of society have to scrimp, save and claw our way to make a decent life for ourselves. And I only see it getting worse, especially with this damn entitlement generation coming up through the ranks now.

As my friends say, if there weren't bad luck, you'd have no luck at all... Hopefully it rains in 3s and your bad streak is over. I feel for you because dh and I are like you and your dh. Always bad stuff... our luck is turning (fingers crossed). My belief is that there will be an end near with good things to come for you too.

LMO,

Wow, tough run of luck. Sorry about the car accidents and the cat.

Don't worry even bad days have tomorrows and things will undoubtedly get better.

Hang in there.

I am sorry about all of the bad things everyone is going through. I can identify with many of these as I have expereinced many through the years and to some extent continue to do so. I also know how aggravating it is to see trifling people seem to get ahead at your expense while you are struggling. However, I can report that the karma bus does sometimes catche up to these trifling, greedy, vindictive BMs and thier spawn!

For example, my H's BM who used to like to show off that she still resided in a water front residence that she scammed almost completely paid for in the divorce to H's misfortune married a good for nothing cheater who eventually moved on to greener pasture after he succeeded in getting her to turn over the equity that was in this house. I could see the writing on the wall with this 2nd husband years earlier and sure enough it turned out just as I had predicted.

You would think that after this experience BM's hatred would be for her second ex who took her to the cleaners and wasted what was her money form her first divorce but noooooooo.

BM regrouped and had the adult children dig into us and also try to manipulate us. However, since the emotional blackmail and hateful greedy behavior BM orchestrated with the adult steps has backfired on her with H, BM is now MISERABLE because instead of her being able to continue manipulating H, H now has limited contact with the adult steps by his choice. When I asked him why -H told me that he dreads talking to or seeing them knowing how volatile like BM they are and how they have acted towards him. I quess H finally understands that he will never be worthy of anything beyond contempt in their eyes even when they pretend otherwise for a short time and he is tired of being treated that way!

SD 35 acussed me in our last conversatino a few months ago of enjoying the fact that H never called them etc, and accused me of doing it. I laughed and informed her that I had not had to do anything that they had suceeded in doing all of that work for me!!!! MY SAYING THIS MADE THEM FURIOUS AND IWAS PROCLAIMED TO BE "JUST AWFUL"! }:)

So you see Karma does happen and some people do eventually get back some of the ugliness they dish out!

It does not make mine a good situation but you do have to take your enjoyment where you can find it even if it does chap off the steps and BMs!