BM constantly shifts blame, never has to take responsibility for herself.
Let me count the ways, because this first one is annoying the crap out of me today.
1. SD6 (who is not FDH's child but we still take her) told us the other night that BM NEVER reads to them, they just watch TV until she turns it off for bed. We read to them EVERY night and they love it. SD has told us this before. Also, SD seems to have forgotten all she's learned as far as reading goes. She has been having a hard time getting back into the swing of things with reading. So FDH texted BM and said, "SD needs some major work before starting 1st grade this month - she seems to have forgotten everything." -- Mind you, he wasn't BLAMING her although in truth we are. BM's response? "Well if she can't read anymore that must mean you're not helping either." -- see that sly way that she half-admits her own fault but then blames others for it? Eh HEM, we have SD6 only SIX days a month!!! How are WE equally responsible for her education? Oh but she'll occassionally throw out hte "Stepping Up is a teacher, she should be doing it." nevermind that I have a high school degree, not elementary.
2. BM has taken quite heavily to a partying lifestyle. She posted on her facebook today about how last night was her fourth night out this week and it's not going to stop until Sunday (when she gets skids). Her OWN MOTHER (who is a heavy partier, too) started telling her that she looks like a fool posting about partying all the time, that it makes her look like a terrible mother, and that she needs to shape up. She told her that she's not hte only one who thinks that about her and her behaviors. :jawdrop: BM said in response, "Chill out mom, that means all my friends are the same as me!" So basically BM is blaming her friends for being alcoholics???
3. We found out recently that the skids are always at BM's mom's house. We knew that she picked up the slack for BM a lot but we didn't know that it was quite often during the weekdays, too. FDH asked BM about it and she said, "My mom wants to see them, I'm not going to stop her from that."
4. A long ago story....BM cheated on FDH. His best friend caught her. Who was the person she blamed for their break up? His best friend.
And I could go on and on. I swear to god she would break her kid's arm and then blame him for it. Does your BM do this too?
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Wow this could so be our BM.
Wow this could so be our BM. She never does anything for her daughter. No bed time stories. No quality time. Nothing special..always BARE minimum. My DH brings things up to her BM now and then, but she always has her own perfectly justifiable (in her own mind) reasons for why she does things. She thinks she is great...can do no wrong. Boy is she living in a dream world. She too blames everyone else for her problems and wrong doings. She is a partier who would rather spend money on a night out than buy her daughter clothes that fit. She drops her daughter off to her own Mother or Brothers houses on HER days simply because she really doesn't even care to see her. She puts herself..her own wants and needs before her child. My DH filed for divorce from her because he found out she cheated on him with his best friend. Of course she blamed it on being drunk. What pieces of work we have for BM's!! Great isn't it?? BLAH!!!