I am a mom of a 4 and 5 year old from a previous relationship and married a man much older who has 3 adult children (21,23,and 25). The one SS is actually dating my sister, and my bother married my H niece. My SC are all having relationship problems, and poor life choices. My H has made several comments that he feels he let his adult children down when he married into our new family. This bothers me a lot, because it sounds to me that he regrets getting married. Anyway, I really don't like my SD's H. He is a very poor fit for her. I can't talk about it with my H because he gets offensive. So....instead of talking about it with him, I talk to my sister-in-laws (my brother's wife and her mother...my H brother's W) because they don't like the SD H either. I know it's a bit confusing.. long story short: My friends are part of my H family, and he gets very upset when I discuss my feelings about my SC with them. He hasn't really talked to me in 2 weeks because he feels responsible for his adult childrens behavior and that I am making a bigger issue by talking to the few friends I have. When will he realize that his children are adults and he is not responsible for them anymore? He wasn't the problem to begin with, it's his ex-wife who didn't want anything to do with family bonding...my SC act just like her. Has anyone experienced something similar? Will my new family start to fall apart because he's still living in the previous? Please Help.