When you get the answer to stop DDS let me know

This is something we laugh about on ST, but as a SM whose DH has been a terrible Disney Dad at times, I know it is not funny. The difficult thing about it is drawing the line between wanting your kids to have a nice time with you because you don't see them often, and completely spoiling them and putting unrealistic expectations in their heads.

Over time, I have found that the way that works best for me, is making my point in a clear, rational way, not screaming and shouting. I point out to my DH that he is not teaching his daughters to value things, and money, by overspending on them. He is not providing them with a good basis for adulthood if everything comes to them too easily.
I haven't yet found any books or articles on Disney Dad syndrome - someone should write one.

The only thing that worked was me saying on numerous occasions that he'd better be careful, his kids "could" become spoiled. Not his kids!

One day while I was disengaged, his daughter finally showed her father true spoiled nature. He's backed off a lot. Still a bit of a disney dad, but its better than it used to be. In the old days, they went to the mall-movies-mall every visit. The shopping was ridiculous.

i've managed to get him to make the kids more active (at the gym) and stay home and do things. Now I kinda wish they would just leave me alone at the house and go somewhere. Go figure.