I'm stuck in a pickle and I'm just not sure what to do. When FDH and I met we lived apart. It was hard because he works offshore. He is only home 6 days a month. I moved up to where he was because at the time my ex was becoming crazy and my DD8 and I needed a change of scenery and to start over. His parents were so encouraging and said they would support us however they could especially since FDH is gone so much and I know no one in town. Well of course slowly but surely it seems my FMIL is just out to get me. She loves his ex and literally tells all her grandkids that my FDH's and BMs son my SS5 is her favorite. She did the same thing with her kids and it seems she especially doesn't like girls. She sat me down about two weeks ago to let me know that she thought my DD8 is a spoiled brat and that no one can stand her. She says that her family members have said this and she said that even my family members have told her. My DD8 was sitting right there and heard this all.

My DD8 has gone through so much in the past year and was the victim of a horrible crime. She really has dealt with enough without this mess involved. The problem is although my child is a typical child, I honestly don't see her as spoiled. She listens. She is well-behaved and I constantly get compliments on her in public. She is stubborn. She likes to do things her way and sometimes bosses around her friends. The arguments FMIL had were ridiculous. She fights with SS5. That was pretty much it. She even recommended counseling for daughter on how to get along with others! :jawdrop: Another issue: Honestly, my SS5 is misbehaved. He is spoiled. He cries if he doesn't get his way and is constantly testing boundaries. But all FMIL sees is that he's an angel which is ridiculous. I am so embarrassed when I see her with him in public because he is all over the place and acting crazy.

We are stuck with this stupid trailer where we are. We are having financial problems like crazy. Did I mention the trailer was on FMIL's land? I try and stay away from her. But do I want to stay with someone who's family hates my kid? What about our future children? What if I have a girl that she can't stand either? What if it is a boy? So then my DD8 will have two siblings that FMIL loves and can't stand her. It wouldn't be so bad if she didn't adopt all the kids in the neighborhood as her grandkids. At church, all the kids love her and she loves them. Why is she outing my child?