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SD22 lied about having her own place

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Submitted by frustratedstepdad on Fri, 04/20/2012 - 8:17am

So we found out yesterday that SD22 really doesn't have her own place. She moved into an apartment with a friend of hers, and that friend was planning on moving in with her boyfriend, so SD22 would just be taking over the payments. This weekend we agreed to help rent a van so we could move the rest of SD22's stuff out of our house.

So now SD22's friend isn't going to move in with her boyfriend. In actuality, SD22 would've been trying to get us to move her stuff AND her friend's stuff back and forth. Hell no on doing that. So now SD22 and her friend are just going to stay in the apt for now. Of course we also found out it's only a 1 bedroom so there's no room for GS3 to move in with them at all. SD22 claims they will be looking for a bigger apartment and should have it by the middle of May. Of course SD22 and her friend still plan on going to Vegas for 2 weeks and stripping to make more money.

So I was right to be concerned. First, she was going to get GS3 by May 1st. Now it's sliding back to the middle of May. The writing is on the wall as far as I'm concerned. SD22 has NO intention of taking care of her son.

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Fri, 04/20/2012 - 8:27am

SD22 has NO intention of taking care of her son.
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I could have told you that. a long time back. Neither her, nor her sister were raised to actually raise their own kids.

And why should she? Your W makes it perfectly clear that she is going to try to raise this kid.

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Submitted by overworkedmom on Fri, 04/20/2012 - 8:37am

Would you wife do this, and then maybe "threaten" foster care? Maybe if she thinks her child will be actually taken away she will grow the hell up and be his mom!

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Submitted by LizzieA on Fri, 04/20/2012 - 9:25am

This is too much. I hope your W can wise up and see the truth instead of believing all the lies, evasions and placating SD does. They are going to strip for some money? That is over the top. What a waste of space.

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Submitted by frustratedstepdad on Fri, 04/20/2012 - 9:33am

Yes my SD22 has been stripping for over a year now. She keeps hearing from her other stripper friends that they can go to Vegas for like 2 weeks and make thousands of dollars.

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Submitted by frustratedstepdad on Fri, 04/20/2012 - 11:44am

I guess that's also a possibility. I've pretty much resigned myself to the fact that we'll be raising this child, and instead of thinking about how miserable the next 15-18 years of my life will be, I should just take things a week at a time.

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Submitted by 3familiesIn1 on Fri, 04/20/2012 - 12:11pm

I would never be able to give up my grandchild (step grand child would be up to DH though)

However, that being said, IF I get into that situation, I would not want said child being pulled back and forth at will by a bad mother. DHs sister had a child young, she spent 1 year here, 1 year there showing up and yanking the child with legal rights as mother. Its messed this child (now 21) up in many ways.

If you are going to resign and decide to take on this child - you need to legally get the paperwork to OWN that childs rights so the mother cannot come and go as she pleases - if the mother snaps out of it and grows up - then changes can be made. You need to solidify the rights of that child.

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Submitted by frustratedstepdad on Fri, 04/20/2012 - 1:26pm

I-m so happy Right now we have temporary guardianship until she gets her own place. She was SUPPOSED to have her own place by April 1st. Then we signed the guardianship papers, one of the stipulations is that she has a place for herself and her son. She told us she would need till May 1st. Now the date just keeps getting pushed back.

For the past 2 weeks she has hardly come by to see her son. She will come by at night right when we are about to put him to bed and get him all excited. She will always bring a "guilt gift" (candy or a toy) when she comes by. Of course he's too young to understand that she's not really coming by to visit him, but just to take a shower before going to work, etc. On Monday morning I am getting the locks changed so she can't just drop by anymore.

If we do end up keeping him, then she is going to sign over custody. No exceptions. No way I could let the little guy end up in foster care or something like that. It's not his fault his mom is pathetic.