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My husband just asked me to think about his daughter and ex wife keeping out child...how in the hell should I respond to that on

tryingtomakeit's picture

So tomorrow I am helping a friend move and my husband plans on helping when he gets off work. Well, I have asked a freind to baby sit but they had plans. I was talking to my husband about it and he said he had thought about letting his daughter baby sit our 15 month old. I asked how this was going to help becasue she would have to be with us and whats the point I would end up watching 2 kids istead of one and it would be more on me.

He actually came out and said, No I mean let her watch him at her mother (aka the ex). What the hell? How can he ask me that. I said well um that is like asking the ex to baby-sit our child, right? I mean becasue the 15 year old can barely do anyting for her self. I am sure she would ask her mom to change the diaper and feed the baby. So in all reality the ex and the daughter would be watching the child.

Personally, I am not that in need of a sitter, but the fact that he even would suggest it really pisses me off.

Maybe, i am over reacting, but I dont want the ex doing anything for my child.

What's ya'lls comments on this one?

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whatwasithinkin's picture

ummm your not over reacting actually I think your under reacting...i woulda flipped

just.his.wife's picture

I-m so happy This.

I can just hear bm cooing to your infant now "Ohh you poor little thing... yous mommy is a bitchie whorie, yes she is, isn't she"

Please, kick your DH in the nuts for me for even DARING think this idea up let alone proposing it to you.

sweetbabycake's picture

oh wow :? . I would have flipped out! My SD has watched our DD and I have made it clear, I do not want my DD at her mother's (the ex's) house...I would have just said, no thats ok, DD can come with us to help move.

giveitago's picture

I'd be taking the baby with, taking time out for baby, and baby can be well fed and take a nice long nap while you do what you need to do. It doesn't have to be such a chore to help your friend move and baby will provide some nice respite for both of you when it's time to take a break. Think of it as a fun process and 'subliminal learning' for baby...hey...this is what a move looks like kiddo!

tryingtomakeit's picture

Its really what I have planned to do. And especially now since the ex had proved to me yet again he doesnt think before he opens his mouth.

imjustthemaid's picture

Ugh! When BD was a baby DH was not on good terms with his parents. But we were very friendly with BM's mother. She was always asking if she could babysit and we let her a few times and it worked out great. The last time she babysat I pulled up to pick up the baby and BM had her in her arms down the street at a neighbors house. I almost died!! That was the last time!

BM was all like I love babies blah blah blah but she somehow hates her own kids!!

twopines's picture

First of all, that is a ridiculously stupid question to ask you.

Secondly, I'm wondering how his ex would feel knowing he just volunteered her home for this babysitting? I'd be yelling so loud the walls would crack.

napamom's picture

Not at all! My DH suggested this once and I let him know only over my dead body was that ever going to happen!

qtpie013178's picture

I would be leery of SD watching an infant. I especially wouldn’t want my child at his ex’s house unless she and I had a good relationship outside of him.