DH and SS27 went to a concert together Tuesday night

While hanging out before the concert, SS27 starts getting all “blue” saying stuff like
“ I wish I remember when we used to …” (talking about things they did as a family when his brother was still alive and when DH and his Ex were still married)

DH’s oldest son was 16 when he died… that was fourteen years ago… SS was 13 years old and he claims to have practically no memories of when his brother was alive

He says this all the time, but he still harps on how hard it is to have lost his brother

I’m not trying to sound harsh… I’m really not. I understand that we all mourn in our way….but it’s like he purposefully dwells on this and the “good ol’ days” of when DH and his ex were still married.

I met my DH two years after he lost his son. I saw what he was going through THEN and how far he’s come today. I get that it was a struggle to get to this point… but it’s like SS is always looking to pull DH down into some dark area when it comes to his dead brother.
And he talks about those “good ol’ days” as if they really were GOOD!
Um, no they weren’t! I’ve heard the horror stories…

Then he goes on to get accusatory and argumentative with DH about “you don’t tell me you love me enough, you never did”
What?

DH finally had enough and told him to grow the eff up… you’re 27, you live at home, you don’t’ pay rent, you have a kid that WE are supporting and you don’t take responsibility for yourself… you try to blame all of your “issues” on losing your brother and our divorce…you don’t apologize when you do or say something wrong, you don’t thank me or “cpreston” for anything that we do for you, your girlfriend or the baby… get over yourself and GROW UP!!!

SS is still not talking to DH or me, or my kid… which to be honest, I really could care less about… but seriously… there’s something not right going on in his head!