Taking a step back...About 1.5 years prior to me and my husband meeting (his age 19), he decided to break-up with his girlfriend. But before he got up the courage, she told him that she was pregnant. So he did the logical thing and married her (I commend the "doing the right thing", but you don't marry someone you don't love...period. It always ends up to be a disaster). Guess what? It ended in a disaster.

She filed for divorce and he let her have everything and left. She was mean and vindictive (not much has changed on that part) and something in the back of my mind says that she got pregnant on purpose...not sure how, but I might be adding more drama from my imagination. I will let you in on the facts since that is enough drama for 10 people.

She filed a false restraining order on DH so that he could not see his son. DH ended up moving back into his parents' 2-bedroom house that was unfinished and in the middle of being remodeled (no real place for a baby to live). She ended up dropping SS off to him when it was convenient for her, violating her own restraining order (tell me how that makes sense).

DH ended up getting visitation every other weekend and utilized every chance he got. He has not physical or legal custody. I met DH during this period of his life. He has a wonderful personality, great heart, and I knew he was the one early on. I was 18 and he was 20. We started as friends and that quickly developed into a wonderful relationship. However, I never knew what I was in for as the "new woman".

BM would not speak to me...or even make eye contact. She would tell DH that we wouldn't last and that I was (insert few choice words here). I was never a threat, never started a fight, never disciplined her child, and never made rude comments to the BM. DH had been trying to finalize the divorce papers for over a year and it kept getting "delayed" because of lack of cooperation.

In the midst of the light drama, BM ended up stirring the pot. She was sleeping with another married man...and guess what? She got pregnant again (planned maybe?). This time she was trying to get DH to sign the birth certificate for the new child. He got a paternity test to confirm that it was in no way his child and the other man left state back to his current wife (who was also pregnant at the same time). Sounds like something that should be on tv, right?

I was thinking...is this woman trying to make a career out of having babies with different men?

After a few years, we finally got engaged. We wanted to have more kids, but ended up getting pregnant a few months later. The wedding got pushed back until a year after my son was born. But everyting turned out great...for a little while...

The BM would constantly ignore phone calls, had different men in and out of her (and her childrens') lives. She would make sure to make any time that we had with SS inconvenient.

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Then she would be nice. She has done things like buy my son a Blues Jersey (with our money...how nice). Cooperate on switching weekends for events that came up. We even watched both of her children (which are great kids) while she went to a few "singles conferences". She still had her bipolar days, but I thought there was a light at the end of the tunnel.

The light was merely a glow stick...one that faded pretty quickly. She told DH that she was now randomly Mormon and that they get married fast "so watch out". We laughed about it a little bit seemingly that was the only reason she was Mormon.

She wasn't joking. In October '11, she started dating a guy...from Iowa. Apparently she has been going to singles conferences...but in Iowa. They got engaged in December...and married this past June. She doesn't mess around (well, I guess not anymore).

Now all of her decisions are "We decided"...which is fine, but I haven't even gotten to the kicker yet.

New stepdad was getting his doctorate...something to do with Steamboat engineering ($$$$) and he was still in school and in an internship when they decided to quickly get married. BM's plan was to uproot SS and move to Iowa, and would allow DH to see SS one weekend every other month. That seems fair, right? (sarcasm) She also said she was quitting her job (because her new fiance agreed to support the family). DH told BM that he would not sit back and let that happen. Her words were "you don't have a choice...I have sole legal and physical custody. You have no say." DH said he would take her to court. She laughed and said "I will destroy you."

This is where the IN YOUR FACE comes in. Oh, we took her to court...maxed out our credit card 3 times. The judge said that she could move to Iowa, but she would have to leave SS here. The look on her face was priceless. She is not allowed to take him more than 50 miles away. Whew! But it's not over...

BM quit her job anyway. New stepdad moved here (to Missouri)...also no job. So 2 unemployed parents are claiming to have a "more stable nuclear family and environment" to claim sole custody. Did I mention they want to at least double the child support? I'm going to be 25...with grey hair. (sigh)

So for anyone that thinks it's not possible to stop a BM in her crazy-tracks...there is hope.

We have mediation on Thursday...and another pre-tril in July...more drama to come!