DH has really struck a nerve and I don't know how to get him to see/understand how ridiculous he's being thinking I have to follow each and every single rule we set down for all 3 kids.

He set a rule "no food in the bedrooms" for the kids because where we live we have a big problem with sugar ants. So we want to keep the food limited to the kitchen and sometimes the living room, as long as everyone is picking up after themselves.

DH, bless his little male mind, has brought it up twice now in front of the skids that he thinks I should follow that rule too. I work from home and sometimes with my job don't get breaks, or a very long lunch. Or I have to run errands, or help my BD with something on my lunch. So yes, I do bring food to my desk...which happens to be in our bedroom.

I've tried to give him examples of rules that parents frequently set down but don't have to follow cuz...well damnit, we're the adults and we followed the rules of our parents. Now that we pay our own bills, we can do what we want. Examples- parents telling kids not to swear, but the parents swear...yep, guilty as charged. parents setting a bedtime for kids, but the parents going to bed when they want...guilty of this one too. some parents won't let their kids drink soda, eat sugary candy, etc...I have always let my child eat/drink whatever I eat/drink except I do limit her snacking...but I can snack on/when whatever I want.

I don't understand why he continues to bring it up to skids that I don't follow the rule of "no food in the bedroom". This last time he did it, I made a big deal about it, reminded him that I'm the other bill paying adult in the house, and as such, I can do what I want. If skids want to start paying half the bills, I'll start following his little rule like a little sheeple. Until then, back off and don't EVER try to belittle me again in front of your adult babies!