So SS9 went home sick from school yesterday on SO's time, turns out he has strep. He can't go back to school for 48 hours, today is BM's time and she has to work plus an appointment she couldn't miss this morning. SO can't watch him either. I happen to have the option from working from home if needed, which has been relied on heavily for sick child care in the past.
BM assumes I will watch him, SO tells her he will not ask me after the way she yelled at me. So BM texts me to ask if I will watch him. In the text she says there is no one else she trusts to take care of him when he's sick cause she knows I love him. I do not respond to her but I did tell SO I will watch him.
But then today I find out from a coworker of hers (I helped her get a job with a friend of mine) that the appointment was to apply for legal aid to try to go to court because she wants to have the option to keep SS9 away from SO if he allows SS9 to spend any time with me alone during his parenting time or if we should have a child together as she feels that might negatively impact SS9 financially and emotionally.
This is dumb because #1- You are allowing SS9 to spend time alone with me and sent me a text saying there's no one else you trust to take care of him when he's sick, #2 We are not planning to have a child together and #3 If we were planning to have a child together, I seriously doubt you can keep a child from its parent just because there is a sibling, I would think there would have to be some kind of abuse or something to reduce parenting time.
So good luck with that one BM.