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Submitted by ryan_lucario on Wed, 03/14/2018 - 1:29am

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Anyone here has experience with lesbian SDs?

Okay, discovered this last week. Most of the girls in her circle found partners to go on a cruise party in LA (apparently, it's discounted for couples and no, they don't necessarily have to be real couples) and well, she said she's not in the right mood. I was entirely okay with that but I phoned up her best friend and she narrated an incident which left me dumbstruck. I'm not going to make this a long post but it turns out she's lesbian. And, she hasn't opened it up to her mother and I still pretend to not know but it's possible the best friend might have confessed. I snooped in her search history which wasn't right but it appears she checks out sites with lesbian cams at night. Ahh, I have no issues with that but could she be addicted to porn? The best friend also mentioned that she started talking way less and went full introvert mode. From a step-father's point of view, I seek to restore her happiness. I'm busy with hectic work schedules and I think the best thing to do would be to arrange a counselling session with matchmakers from perhaps, a lesbian dating service provider like Bespoke.  What say?

 

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Submitted by MoominMama on Wed, 03/14/2018 - 3:46am

I'm sorry but I think you are interfering and it won't be appreciated. Her sexuality is none of your business. She will tell people when she is ready and she has to find her own way to do that. I'm sure you mean well but you are heading for trouble if you get involved in this way.

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Submitted by RST on Wed, 03/14/2018 - 5:16am

If she finds out about your conversation with her best friend this will come back to bite you and damage the relationship with the best friend who she may have otherwise confided in when she felt comfortable.  You clearly want to help your SD, just being there if she wants to talk to you about it will be enough, it's not about you finding answers for her.   

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Submitted by Jzell67 on Wed, 03/14/2018 - 5:49am

Is this a joke.

none of your business. Stay out of it. Your calling the bestfriend?

umm no back off... Your sounding like a stalker.

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Wed, 03/14/2018 - 1:11pm

...is to stay OUT of her business.

Maybe she's curious.
Maybe she's bi.
Maybe she's undecided.

Regardless, it is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. IF she has questions or wants to talk to someone, she will do it in her own time and NOT when someone forces the issue. That could cause her to become more withdrawn. Leave her alone.

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Submitted by marblefawn on Wed, 03/14/2018 - 2:42pm

If I understand you correctly, you're admitting to "snooping" in your SD's sexual life.

That's frighteningly creepy.

Maybe she is withdrawn because she's knows what you're up to, she's freaked out and she's stuck living with you.

You need to seriously get back on your side of an appropriate boundary. If you're concerned about your SD's well being, talk to her mother and let her handle it. An unrelated male should not be stalking her via her computer and friends. It's disgusting.

 

 

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Submitted by ryan_lucario on Thu, 03/15/2018 - 10:45pm

but anxiety was getting me to do all the odd things. I guess it's her life, her rules.

She's all grown up anyway. Thanks for the responses, guys. It really changed my flawed thought process.