Last night DH & I were on the phone chatting with DH's cousin

DH's cousin mentioned how he's not getting along with his daughter right now

DH mentions how hard that is, and how he's not getting along with OSD or SIL

Then DH gets on to this rant about how OSD and SIL treat me like garbage and how much it angers him

He goes on to say that OSD has never gotten over the fact that her parent's split up (long before I even met DH) and that he knows it's not personally against me, she just can't stop being angry and blaming her parents for divorcing and 'ruining her life' and that she takes it out on both her step-parents (both myself and BM's significant other, who actually has it even worse than me the poor man)

DH's cousin says that OSD needs to get over that and she shouldn't be making her step-parents pay the price, especially when her step-parents have always been tolerant and good people to her

DH's cousin then goes on to say it's unacceptable that SIL would treat me anything less than good, that I had nothing to do with DH and BM spliting up, that BM obvisously wasn't perfect either or maybe DH wouldn't have cheated on her and regardless I wasn't even arouind when it happened and have been nothing but a great person who does not deserve to be treated badly by SIL

DH's cousin also said to DH that he thinks it's pretty disgusting that SIL would actually side with DH's ex-wife than she would with her own brother, and that too, is simply crossing the line

DH then says, "yes especially since she never even liked BM" that the whole time DH was married to BM, that his sister (SIL) couldn't stand her, was never nice to her, but the moment they split she was suddenly best friends with her! 

DH said SIL was always jealous of him, and yes not acceptable that when he and BM split SIL chose to side with BM, and on top of it to treat me like garbage too...but then again, she has always been jealous and competitive with me big time as well, so at least I know the real reason why!