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Submitted by Mominit on Fri, 11/23/2018 - 7:20am

I was on Steptalk long ago when the SKs were little, and then drifted away as life settled out (though I continued to read on and off over the years).

I'm Mom to 2 (now grown and on their own) and Smom to 2 (late teens).  DH and BM split before SD was born.  DH and I met in a group as single parents whose kids played together, and we got together within a year.  So the kids have never really known a time when they weren't all "siblings".   I'm very lucky that DH puts our marriage first and as a result we have a pretty tight knit blended family.  BM caused issues for a while, but DH is a really level headed, intelligent man who puts the kids and our marriage above nonsense, and it didn't take long for the kids to see that the issues were pretty one sided. 

So my advice on most issues will come from a slightly unfamiliar (at least here) perspective very much like Rags' story.  My DH is my best friend, I truly am Mom to all four of the kids as he is Dad.  The kids have all grown into really wonderful people with only normal teenager moments (don't teens EVER need sleep?), and for the most part we've come through the other side very happily.

Looking forward to adding my perspective and reading yours!

Happily, Momin'it

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Submitted by Maxwell09 on Fri, 11/23/2018 - 8:02am

We need more of these...so often we only post the bad or the outrageous. I like readying the okay/good stories moments too. 

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Submitted by advice.only2 on Fri, 11/23/2018 - 8:25am

It's refreshing to hear things like this. It just proves that not all of step life is a white elephant!

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Submitted by CLove on Fri, 11/23/2018 - 1:52pm

I am 4.5 years into this "adventure", and most of my issues are with a toxic BM I call Toxic Troll. Previously my issues were with a bratty teenage SD I called "Winona" because around the time I joined StepTalk, she had been caught stealing. Winona I now call Toxic Feral because she is a very dirty, messy, trashy toxic person with Narcissistic Personality. Lies and character assasination is her favorite hobby. She went no contact the past year and a half, and now lives  a short distance away with Toxic Troll.

Otherwise I have a VERY supportive and loving DH, who has always backed me up, and continues to do so. We have 50/50 custody of Munchkin SD12, and she thinks of me like a "second mom". She actually told her Auntie that recently, which really warmed my heart. I do not have any bio children of my own, and I am now too old to conceive.

Welcome back!