So we ended up having thanksgiving dinner at SILs bar. I wish I could say restaurant but quite frankly its a bar with a small amount of bar type foods being served. Anyways it was large enough for the 20ish people that were getting together and it got me out of having to host it at my house which was just assumed by MIL that I could just do that.... Even while pregnant and still in my 1st trimester more lovingly known as where I puke constantly. 

We pack up the kids and all of the food we are taking and we are off.When we get there we see some family friends have shown up with was a nice surprise. Everything seems to he going good. I avoid MIL like the plague so I can enjoy myself. My SD10 decides she wants to act up at dinner because the grandparents are there and she thinks she will be able to get away with it. Saddly that didn't work out well for her. SD has had a fairly constant issue when it comes to eating food. She is such an extremely pick eater that at 10.5 years old she weighs between 45 and 50 pounds and is still in a booster seat because of how dangerous it would be for her if we had a car accident and she was just in a regular seat. Her brother who is only 8 weighs roughly 70 pounds and does not have to sit in one anymore which is a whole other story of drama and grief from MIL. 

So SD goes through the food line with me and is saying no to everything being offered (mind you she eats these foods at home when there isn't an audience) I tell her she has to eat and to pick somethings to go on her plate. She finally gives in and we put 1 small slice of turkey on her plate 1 small slice of ham a table spoon of potatoes a tablespoon of rice a tablespoon of greens and a roll on her plate. I didn't try to make her eat large portions because I could already see the fight coming and I was trying to save us all the trouble. She of course wants none of it and is already saying she is full after eating the roll. Nope sorry girly sit your butt down and eat your dinner cuz your not getting anything else. 

Family friend sees the whole thing and watches it take her an additional 45 minutes to finally eat after pouting. So they come over to tell me I'm doing a good job as a mom and not to let it stress me out when she wants to act like that. Very nice of them but here comes the blindside...... I tell the friend she doesn't do this at home and at this point its because I didn't give her  only what she wanted and how if it had been a meal she picked she would have had 3 times that much and asked for more. FIL comes at me with this nasty attitude and asks if I'm not the same way and only eat what I like. I said no actually if someone takes the time to make me a meal I eat what is made regardless and even on days my family requests a meal I'm not foumd of I eat it as well. I cant afford to make every child in the house a meal they like plus feed myself and DH so sometimes we just have to eat what's made. He did not agree and felt I shouldnt make his grandkids eat things they don't like and I shouldn't send them to bed without something else if they choose not to eat it. 

I was dumbfounded! I have 5 children and 1 on the way and this old goat was trying to tell me I needed to raise them the way he thinks. All I could say was well that's not happening! No wonder SD has so many food issues they still seem to allow that kind of thing at their home when she is over and are encouraging it even. I havent even spoken to DH about it. I have no idea what he would say but I'm sure he would agree with me because he sees his daughter is the smallest person in her whole grade and knows she should eat more than just sweets and chips.