My SO is far from amazing. My "amazing goggles" came off a long time ago and I see him for a man who has many positives but also negatives, just like me. I would not want it any other way. To have the pressure to be with an "amazing" man, while myself I am flawed, would be too much for me. 

I have to say I am right there with you. My DH is the best man there is for me. I always call him the calm to my crazy. After being in one physically abusive relationship and one that was emotionally I have issues. The one that was physical would fall asleep on the couch all the time. If I dared to disturb him he would come at me swinging. The yelling and belittling that would happen after... I still want to cry thinking about it. 

DH feel asleep on the couch once when we were still dating. I wanted to wake him to go to bed. I got close and then I wound up breaking down in this sobbing mess on the floor. He woke up immediately and just sat and "pet my hair" for about an half an hour. He didn't need to know what happened. He was just there for me. I still have panic attacks, sometimes for no reason at all. He still will sit with me on the floor petting my hair until I am ok. 

It's little things like that... he simple understanding. His never ending support. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me (minus my kids). So, yeah. My DH is AMAZING.  He isn't perfect. He is a human. He tries though. He is always striving for our relationship, for our kids, for our life. If a man like that can't be considered amazing, I don't know what is.

Lol. Some people like hyperbole, I guess. What they consider “amazing” I consider standard qualities for me to be with someone. 

Sorry to take it down an OT road a bit, but this song is too excellent to NOT share:

George Michael - Amazing (Official Video) on YouTube:
https://youtu.be/6YziZ1FlAWs 

RIP George.

I wouldn't call a person "amazing", but I may consider certain aspects of them to be. And "amazing" isn't always a good thing.

I can be equally amazed by someone's kindness or cruelty. I can be equally amazed by someone's parental skills or lack thereof. I can be amazed by someone's ability to overcome adversity or to play into the challenges they face.

My DH has many "good amazing" qualities, and a couple "bad amazing" ones (like how he knows BM is conniving, but from time to time falls into the same trap, or can't see her motive).

I personally would never call someone, as a person, "amazing". It's too definitive of them being "good" or "bad". It also doesn't offer any room for growth or deterioration.

When I was 23 and fresh out of a physically abusive relationship, sure. I thought my DH was "amazing!!!" That was 14 years ago. He's a good man. A hard worker. A good provider and a halfway decent parent at least. He's not amazing. He's never put his hands on me, but that doesn't make him amazing. He can be a selfish ass. He snores so loud the windows shake. He ignores and avoids conflict like it's a skill he's trying to perfect.

I love him to bits, but he's flawed and human and effs up just like the rest of us. I love him despite knowing and acknowledging his flaws. And that's what makes a marriage last. It was a rough few years for us when the "amazing!!!" filter wore off and we started seeing each other for who we really were and who we've become over the years.

He is equally my greatest love and my greatest frustration. He is good and bad. 

Yes, sometimes I'm still amazed at the things he does...like leave every freaking light on in the basement for 14 hours while he's gone for work. That shit leaves me freaking speechless.

Nope.  He's a good fit for me, but he's not objectively amazing.  In fact, I marvel more often at how amazingly boneheaded some of the stuff he does is than at how amazingly awesome he is.  Fortunately, my standards are well below the "amazing" level and I love him anyway.

I don't think that any person is, in their entirety, amazing. My DH is perfect. For ME. There are aspects about him that *I* find amazing. He has faults and flaws. He can be curmudgeony and cranky. He can be fun and funny. He is too bloody smart, but can miss double entendres and subtle innuendo. He's not GQ material, but I find him handsome. His hands are often grimy despite vigorous scrubbing, frequently bruised and scabbed, and very scarred. I think his hands are beautiful and he thinks I'm crazy. But they are the hands of a hardworking man and that, in itself, is something I find beautiful. I wouldn't have him any other way.

I do think people can be amazing and I don't think the definition of awesome and amazing are really all that different, in fact they're often listed as synonyms. I think my son is amazing. (I know the rest of y'all wouldn't but that's ok). I also think people can be amazing and be really messed up. Picasso, Einstein, Newton, Kahlo, Curie - all amazing. All pretty flawed. And many, many other people are amazing in less flashy ways.  Amazing does not equal perfect. Perfect would indeed be a pedestal too far. My SO sometimes calls me 'perfect' but I'm very, very, very clearly not. I'll raise my eyebrow and he'll say "perfect for me" - and that may be true. I hope so.

Is he perfect - oh no. Perfect for me? Quite possibly. Does he flaws? Yes. I just choose not to dwell on them. 

I'm very happy to be in an amazing relationship. I did a lot of thinking about my minimum standards this time around and this one exceeds them all. I'm happy to wake up and feel lucky every day. 

I find this thread funny.

That is all. LOL

I am AMAZED that some have taken this nice post about a woman that loves her husband and turned it into this ugly hot mess.  Sorry but it sounds like a few jealous people here. 

Amazing / Awesome = Tomato / Tomato. 

Congrats for those of you that think you have an amazing man in your life! Sorry for those of you that don’t think you do and don’t’ think romance is a good thing for an adult.   

*ahem* I believe my SO is the amazing one spawning this debate. I may or may not have ever referred to someone as an a$$hole in the past. Is it necessary decide whether that is objectively true about them? This debate is philosophical now. Everyone "is" really only themselves and can be described quantitatively or qualitatively. Only quantitative metrics are objective: numerical values such as weight, height, etc. All qualitative descriptions are subjective. I'm amazing and I have blue hair. Except my hair is NOT blue, I can't call it blue. Fine whatever. Unless I call it whatever I want, and I can prove it using a color wavelength metric. Oops, turn out it's more of what you call brown but now we have a numerical objective definition. 

"Amazing." All we have to go on is a definition, consisting of an endless recursion of subjective definitions. Trying to prove "he is not amazing [ever]" as an objective always truth using this subjective evidence is contradictory. Therefore, it's not possible make that point. (This is not a response trying to seriously argue using these points, although I do stand behind them)

I have a coworker who is in abusive marriage with alcoholic who hasn’t worked for 5 years. She described him on the  work website where we introduce ourselves: as the greatest  or the most wonderful or some other over the top crap, but she knows we all know the truth 

i am suspicious of people using over the top descriptions of their spouse.

DH and I are very happy together, he is a kind and good man and we match well. My mother recently passed away and my DH was such a big help, my brother said thaf he is so glad I married such supportive and kind hearted man. And it is very true. Granted my first husband is also very supportive and helpful to people but we didn’t match well. I am a great match with DH

Now I'm really going to stir some people up.  On some other boards that I participate on people often add a signature giving the ages of their children.  And they often say things like I have 3 AMAZING children.  Really?  

These children may be wonderful little paragons of beauty and virtue - but I could pretty much guarantee that maybe 1 in 100,000 might be truly amazing.  I'll bet many of the bio parents of the horrid skids written about here describe their offspring as "amazing".  Barf.

Awww - last night as we drifted off to sleep - my SO told me he thinks I'm amazing and thanked me for a wonderful evening spent entertaining one of his science friends. Granted he had had a lot of wine at dinner. 

On my wedding day, I told my mom I couldn't believe I was going to marry someone who would make me laugh every single day for the rest of my life. That is the thing I looked forward to most, and it's true, we've been married almost 3 years, together almost 7, and he's made me laugh every day regardless of what other awful things are happening. He certainly has flaws and so do I, but our relationship is pretty amazing in that we work through challenges as they come up, we're honest with each other, and we don't let little things keep us down. 

Dunno.  I grew up with unkind parents and kissed a lot of frogs before I found DH.  DH is very kind, which can be both a blessing and a curse, but I do enjoy his kindness very much.  He and I are very compatible and I don't think I'd be compatible with many others.  I'm an introvert so my close relationships are very important to me.  I'm grateful every day that I finally found him, a little frustrated that it took me so long, and very sad that I will most likely outlive him by many years.  I do stare at his beautiful face while he's sleeping.  I've never thought of using the word "amazing".  Up until now, if I had to use one word to describe him, it would be "cuddly".

The concept of ideal love has its roots in narcissism.  DH does not believe in the concept of Soul Mate.  While I agree with him intellectually, it sure feels like we are it.  He says we are all compatible with a lot of people.  I think I'm too weird to be likeable to anyone but him.

I read somewhere that the feeling of Soul Mate is what keeps some people trapped in abusive relationships.