Sorry but not sorry.  The saga with the 29SD continues.( the other SD is in TX all the time so that helps for now)  I wrote a while back about how 29SD wrote the most hateful email I have ever seen and sent it to me.  Since then I have said she wasn't allowed to come to the house because I wasn't going to be treated like a door mat anymore.  I have done very well with taking the "high road" .  I couldn't do it this weekend.  UGH   I have been agreeing to let her come back with prior approval because her un-pottied trained dog she dumped on us is ill. She likes to play these games (marriage councelor says it is her way of defense???) with her Dad.  For example:  she expects DADDDEEE to respond to emails and text messages immediately.  My hubby and I were out running errands or soemthing and he didn't respond to her 5 text messages.  Once DH relized she had text, he called her.  She did answer and asked if she could come over ( she likes to come over and watch those crappy reality shows which I think is part of her problem and expects him to sit with her).  She then all of sudden says she has to go and would call back.  Okay - fine.  So then we get home and her car is there and her shoes are at the base of the stairs into the family room.  My DH calls for her at least 3-4 times with no answer.  He then goes down and she is sitting right there watching tv.  He asks why she didn't just respond to him saying "Hi".  Her response was, "Well, if you aren't going to answer me I am not going to answer you".  Anyway the whole time she was there she was miserable to everyone.  Day ruined because if she is not happy no one is going to be happy.  The next weekend she called and wanted to come back over (just on Sunday).  It was so awful the last time I said maybe she sould come over another time.  She said something awful about me to her Dad - I heard it from across the room and I lost it.  I told my husband to put her on speaker phone and let's just get everything out on the table. I said let's talk about that hate email that she sent me that I did not respond to.  Of course, my DH said no to putting her on the speaker phone and then the 29DS said she would never talk to her Dad again and couldn't believe he sided with me and how much she hates him, how he shouldn't be a parent........Anyway, I know this is going to come back to get me.  She is going to use this somehow.   However, I am tired of the verbal abuse she has sent my way over the years and that of which has gotten progressively worse for some reason recently.  I usually let it go by telling my self she needs mental health help or something ....  But for some reason I just let her have it from across the room via the cell phone that my DH wouldn't put on speaker.  I think I startled him by my unexpected rampage...  LOL  I just can't keep it locked up inside anymore.  If she wants to "talk the talk", then she better be ready to "walk the walk"  Anyway, I just had to vent.  Like I say, I can't wait to hear how she is going to use this against me.