Furious and in tears!
Slightly off topic but I am in tears right now and needed to vent! I’m pregnant. We had an ultrasound today and the place we went to took a picture of me, DH, and our BD holding a sign saying it’s a boy. Well THEY POSTED THE FREAKING PICTURE ON FB. We hadn’t even announced the pregnancy yet besides to very few people and we’ve been dealing with the whole SD deciding to live with BM situation so I knew people would think it was crazy (even though I was already pregnant before it got bad). I am just so furious!! I got so many messages from people upset and questioning. I can’t believe a supposedly professional company would do that. And no I did not sign a photo release. She did ask it she could take a picture but she didn’t say she was going to post it online an hour later!
Sounds like a HIPAA violation
Sounds like a HIPAA violation. I'd call whomever deals with their patient experience (if it's part of a hospital) and file a complaint. Sharing that photo is sharing patient medical information, and unless they have some sort of documentation with your signature stating you gave permission, that's a big ol' HIPAA violation.
I just feel so stupid. I
I just feel so stupid. I should have asked more questions but she said she was going to send me the picture so I had no idea she was planning to do anything else with it. Ugh!
No you shouldn’t have to ask
No you shouldn’t have to ask if they will illegally release your medical information. You aren’t stupid, they are. You need to contact whoever is in charge now. They will he fired at the least immediately.
And people being upset??? Unless you are broke and hitting them up for money I cannot even comprehend why they think they have any reason to say anything. Remove THOSE people from your life since you now know what jerks they are.
It’s mainly the people who
It’s mainly the people who think I should be doing more to get SD back. I guess they don’t think it’s right for us to be having another baby when DH isn’t really taking care of SD. I was already pregnant before this happened though. It was super upsetting that they found out through the damn ultrasound place instead of from us. I’m definitely going to be making some calls on Monday!
Well they still suck. Do make
Well they still suck. Do make calls. They will want to know this and if they are not livid and apologizing contact an attorney. My doctors nurse told me my baby didn’t have a heartbeat in front of the whole waiting room, like just walked up an announced it. On top of that being really heartless rather than telling me with some compassion it was illegal. My ex walked back into the doctors personal office and flipped out, doctor was livid! Doctor is still apologizing years later as he told me he ran into him at the airport and Dr walked up to him to do so yet again.
Omg! That’s completely
Omg! That’s completely heartless. I’m sorry you went through that.
You should make some calls.
You should make some calls.
Also, eff the people who think you should be doing "more" to get SD back. Those people have never lived with the reality of a PAS-ing ex and a kid who makes the whole house gloomy and dark during visitation. I've dealt with both of those things so I know...
Sometimes, you just can't force it anymore. You can say the door's always open to you...and let the kid decide to come back to you or not. But...past a certain age...you can't force a kid to do anything. And you certainly can't force your ex.
Ironically none of them are
Ironically none of them are step parents so they are pretty clueless about how these things go.
Holy HIPAA! I agree, call and
Holy HIPAA! I agree, call and complain. What if you hadn't wanted to tell your entire family (and the world) what sex your baby is?
But stop caring about all of those people who think you should work harder to get SD back. It's none of their damn business when or if you have a baby. You have to stop letting that get to you.
I think hormones are half my
I think hormones are half my problem right now haha but I’m definitely trying my best!
And yes I didn’t want anyone to know yet, I hadn’t even told them I’m pregnant and here they are seeing a gender announcement smh
I'd Contact an Attorney
Seriously. What they did sounds to me like a blatant violation of HIPAA. Seriously, contact an attorney in your state (the state bar has lists of attorneys by subject) and possibly look into a lawsuit. Document! Take pictures of the FACEBOOK posts before they wise up and delete!
I'm Sorry
And I just want to say, I'm sorry! What a terrible violation of privacy.
Hugs, Girl!
Thank you, I appreciate that!
Thank you, I appreciate that!
Oh goodness. I am so, so
Oh goodness. I am so, so sorry this happened to you. This is absolutely unacceptable on their part. There are no do-overs when it comes to things like this. They literally took it upon themselves to put this once in a lifetime event out into the would, without regard for your plans, feelings, etcetera.
I would be L I V I D.
In regards to everyone else’s opinions - tell them to shove them where the sun doesn’t shine.
Thank you. That's exactly how
Thank you. That's exactly how I felt. I wonder how many others they have done this to.
Disengagement of SD
if you were disengage with SD she would not of been at your DR appointment.
Huh? SD wasn't at my
Huh? SD wasn't at my appointment. My BD was there.
Tell everyone you have no
Tell everyone you have no idea what they're talking about and that you've been trying and trying to conceive, so this is just a cruel joke (start to cry a little here) and run out of the room. Trust me, it will not come up again until YOU bring it up!
I know it's shitty what that place did, but keep it in perspective -- any upset you have, your baby will have too. Put this out of your mind, hone your acting skills, and let this roll off your back. Better yet, have some fun with it! Tell people that can't be your baby in that photo because you're having triplets!
Really, in the large scheme of things, this is nothing. You have big times ahead. Don't let anything ruin that!
Thank you, that is all true!
Thank you, that is all true! They actually posted a picture of me, DH, and our BD holding an "its a boy" sign and told me they were going to send me the picture (didn't mention posting it online or I would have said absolutely not). But it's all out in the open now so I have to just move on.
Right, I read about the post.
Right, I read about the post.
Just deny it anyway. They will be confused, but as I said, they won't bring it up because it involves fertility problems!