How does it spread?

So because she wants to come over to h@ll with your kids and possibly infect them??? Where is the consideration for yours? I'd text him and let him know.....if she comes over they better be quarantined together in a room. I wouldn't allow that double standard BS......

My DH tried this with one of the skids that had boils that had burst and were oozing puss that ended up needing antibiotic shots at the ER more than once. When he showed up the third time I told DH that he either drives YSS right back to BMs since that's where he was, that's where it started, and no one here was sick and shouldn't be exposed, or I will and when I get there I will give BM a talking to. And if a kid is sick that kid stays where they are at, they do not travel to the other house.

DH argued a little but even he was grossed out and knew he had no leg to stand on (especially since the first time it happened I blew a gasket when I passed by the bathroom and overheard YSS telling DH that BM told him to "just leave it open to air out while at dad's." NO. Absolutely not.

Send her right back to BM. If she starts to get sick at your house and BM has other kids, then the same would hold true that she'd stay at your house.

If SD is on antibiotics, from what I read, she wouldn't be "contagious" within 24-48 hours.  If her coming over is within that time period then I think it's appropriate to take precautions to prevent any possible spread.

Now, of course, your kids are only liable to really be at risk if they have open cuts, sores or bites of their own.. but precautions never hurt.  So.. up until she is in the safe zone (after 48 hours on meds).. she should be in her room and shouldn't be sharing a bathroom with your kids.  So, for the time being, they should shower etc.. in your bathroom and not one shared with their sister.  Alternately, your DH can be responsible for sanitizing the bathroom after her use.. laundering any towels and wiping down surfaces etc...

A staph infection isn't 100% the same as a kid FEELING sick.. but I can see that if in the early stages there could be a small risk of transmission.. I think with proper hygiene by all... that this risk can be almost eliminated.

unless they are rolling around together.  Just keep them separate.  Let DH keep SD somewhere. Like her room. If she that sick she should be in bed.  You camp out in the living room,  SD on her bed room

You know she’s not going to stay quarantined in her room either. It’s another reason for her to ham it up and get attention and sympathy. I don’t blame you for being so pissed. The lack of consideration for others in the home is inexcusable. 

Ugh. I’d be pissed with my DH too.

This is giving me flashbacks to when BM would play down skid’s illnesses, so she could get skid off her hands, and to our house where we had a newborn. Like, high fever and barking cough kind of illness. Of course, DH couldn’t let skid down. Oh no. 

Their CO stated skid had to stay at her primary home if/when she was sick, too, which was BM’s. BM would never have any of that. 

Uhh no the fact that she has blisters and boils she needs to stay home!  Staph infections are highly contagious.

i never understood the thought process when a kid is sick or in pain making them get up and go someplace else just because the parent can’t get over their own ego.

she will be over once she is better, FFS all these parents who think their visitation is more important than their damn kids health.

It’s his fault, all of this.  You need to have a talk with DH, 

Staph infections are not contaigous. Staph is everywhere in our environment and is an opportunistic bacteria that enters through a cut in the skin and only is able to spread if the immune system of the body isn't able to fight the infection. I wouldn't worry so much about your kids getting it, but it is troublesome hearing that it's spreading and she's in more pain from it. It can be life-threatening if antibiotics don't work. Hopefully they're able to get it under control and fast. Are they able to take her back to the doctor to have them look at it. She may very well need to be admitted into the hospital and put on IV.

staph is a bacterial infection that can affect the layers of the skin and become cellulitis but if it is not contained, it could spread into the muscles, because so many doctors used to prescribe unecessary antibiotics the bacteria became stronger which is called MRSA, and is extremely contagious especially when the wound is draining or there are open sores, the last case reported was a football player who spread it to his whole team

portrayed as victims and SM have to deal with all the bs, they put themselves before us, but we need to stand up for ourselves and our kids, Good job I'm proud of you for doing that

You are right, if the CO states that SD stays with BM when sick then she should have stayed with BM.

In the early days BM would change my DHs visitation due to SD being sick, the judge said nope not playing that game and it's actually written into his CO that visitation schedule is to be maintained regardless of sickness and the only exception is a hospital admission in which case whichever parent SD is with is obliged to contact the other immediately.

Now we are 6 years further and communication is way better between DH and BM this is one of the things we are sometimes flexible with. There has even been occasions that SD has stayed with us because she was sick, DH was off work but BM needed to work. But those are exceptions to be agreed by both parties. 

Now my DH and I have our own bio, if SD is sick with something serious, or our bio is then DH contacts BM and they try to figure it out together, but if no exception can be made then the CO is followed. (Not had it happen yet that either of the girls have been sick with something potentially dangerous for the other yet)

What sucks here is that your DH jumped at BMs suggestion for visitation to go ahead without taking the health and wellbeing of your other children into account. Which in turn, upon him returning SD to BM because of her being potentially contagious just screams to BM that YOU had the problem not DH and is more ammunition for the whole step mother creating problems and interfering thing again.