Prince Charming or Disney Dad
Prince Charming:
Charming, Sweet, Loving, Tall, Dark and even Handsome. Someone who understands me, I have anxiety and his patience for me shows when I’m having an attack. Accepts my OCD like behaviors. Never left the toilet seat up. An amazing dad to our littles. Great provider.
Disney Dad:
(little background - when he was 18 he had two children (both adults now) due to an ugly custody fight he had a lifetime stay away order. His teen DD who comes over periodically I know he feels an obligation towards. But to what extreme. )
of our years together I think he’s only disciplined his daughter once - she hit our ODD leaving marks. Doesn’t correct her with eye rolls, back talks, if I correct my ODD, SD will say “omg” as to not like if I correct my DD he doesn’t correct, doesn’t ask her to get off the phone at dinner but we expect it from our ODD. Ask our ODD to get off the phone if she’s playing with the two smaller ones (make sure they don’t get hurt etc) doesn’t ask SD and a baby has gotten hurt due to her lack of attention. Allows her to stay up all night, she’ll fall asleep in the living room then becomes nasty when we are waking up- he doesn’t correct that. So many actions not corrected.
How do you all disengage with kids of your own?
And before Want2 says anything maybe reading my response to your comment on my prior post will prevent further stupidity 
no more stone tossing at glass houses.
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Call her on her crap in front
Call her on her crap in front of him, what the worst he does? Undermine you right in front of her? Then you call him on that crap. Why allow him to treat your and your kids like hostages in your own home by his sh*tty kid just because he's a sh*tty parent!
I’ve always worried if I say
I’ve always worried if I say something to her and he says something to me it’ll be a back and forth. And I’m not the type to shut it down if I feel threatened. Husband or not.
The you find an appropriate
The you find an appropriate time, and draw your boundary with him: "DH, I want you to know that the next time Suzie misbehaves, I WILL be handling it and I expect you to back me up 1,000%. "
unfortunately you cannot
unfortunately you cannot control your husband but what you can control is not allowing her to watch your children anymore. Definitely wouldn’t let her watch my kids if that was in your situation.
Sounds like he’s both a Disney dad and prince charming. A lot of us married husbands like that unfortunately.
Oh she doesn’t. And I get it.
Oh she doesn’t. And I get it. When they learn to walk they fall, she’s fallen on me but I know what happened. With her we asked and she didn’t know and finally admitted to being on her phone and not watching. If I know what they hurt at least I can tend to it better.
What ever issues he went
What ever issues he went through due to an ugly custody fight which lead to a lifetime stay away order has nothing to do with now the PRESENT. Also why was this lifetime order placed? So he needs to stop his Disney Dad BS and parent his child. What happened before is no excuse to allow her to run your house and show the other kids that there is differences in how they are being raised. Your child will resent you and you’ll have more issues in the future. So shut this Disney dad down now or you'll continue to deal with the nonsense.
From my understanding based
From my understanding based of his family they were young, mom got into some issues with him and her family felt he shouldn’t be apart of the kids life. I do know (after my own research) that they both were physically violent.
First off, next time delete
First off, next time delete Want2. Don't even give her nastiness a response or leave it up for her to go back and get herself all excited about. She doesn't deserve the air time.
Second - how old are all of these girls? Obviously your DH needs to hold all of his daughters to the same rules, just wondering about age differences.
Third - if there is a lifetime stay away order (are you sure? That's not really a thing in Family Court in regard to kids) - how does he have her over?
The stay away order was from
The stay away order was from their BM, and I think she made it difficult for him to see them, I’m not sure I was 7 years old when all this was going on (yeah 11 year age difference between DH and I )
his dd is approaching 15 and our odd is 10. The other two we share don’t count lol they’re both under 2
Disney Dad is your issue
It seems that it all comes down to parenting doesnt it?
The only OTHER way is to disengage, and simply focus on YOUR kids. Thats not a satisfying answer, Im sure, but if you are not allowed to call her on her shizz, then you have to find a way to distance yourself.
And nanny cams.