So I found out today my step son (almost 16 y/o) is most likely moving in with us in December I'm not thrilled about this at all. I have 5 kids of my own. They are boys 23 and 21 and girls 19, 17 and 14. My 23 y/o son is moving out tomorrow to live with his dad 3 hours away. His dads a real POS and I don't see this lasting long and he will be back. My 21 y/o son rents a room from his friend about 5 minutes from us so that's nice. My 19 y/o daughter is living with us and has a boyfriend who is almost 26 who we LOVE! He lives with his parents and they are saving money to get a place together. I have my 17 and 14 y/o daughters. My 18 y/o step daughter is on her own working and living with her boyfriend a few minutes away from us. We see them every couple months which is fine with me. Lol. Now my step son and I have had issues in the past. He has not listened to me while he lived with us at one time. Yelled at me, slammed my kitchen table, slammed the door on my face and ranaway. His dad had to leave work early to go find him. This was a couple years ago. He was never punished for it. The only thing that was done was his dad told him he wasn't allowed over until he apologized to me which took him a little over a year to do and it was an apology through messenger saying he just wants to see his dad. I accept and let it go but I never really let it go. I think I have anger and resentment towards him because nothing was ever done about it. I felt like I didn't matter, my feelings didn't matter. My kids are to respect my fiance no matter what. I will not put up with it and they will be punished and they know that. My fiance and I have been together for almost 10 years. We've known each other for about 23 years. I went to his first wedding and was around his kids when they were babies and he was around mine. We both went through our divorces and ended up together almost 5 years later. He was been my kids dad since they were little. Their fathers are non-existent in their lives. So my fiance stepped up big time and took on that roll. He has fully supported them in every way, he has gone to every game, concert, school event and play. He's been great. My fiance is able to talk to my kids, give them advice, lecture them, teach them and punish them. When it comes to his kids I feel like I am not able to do that and since they are never around they get away with everything. So I am worried about his son living here. Im a stay at home mom so Im the one who has to deal with all the BS, drama and fighting with the kids. My kids don't really care for his kids and I think its because they never got in trouble by and and my kids are afraid to lose him as their dad by him getting closer to his kids. My fiance says for me not to stress, his son has changed and matured since last time he was here but I still stress and I still worry. His son is staying the night tomorrow night so we can talk to him and let him know what is expected of him, the rules and respect. Fingers crossed it goes ok. Also fingers crossed his real mom and step dad get their crap together and don't move in December. They got evicted from the house they have been living for years and cant find anywhere local to go so they are moving about 5 hours away and cant take her son because they cant take care of him right now and he don't want to move. So dun dun dun! Here we are! Oh joy! His real mom and step dad and have drug issues and drinking issues to the point the daughter moved out at 16 and the uncle got custody of the son at 14 because social services got involved. Neither kid ever wanted to live here. Too many rules and structure, We are definitely not strict but we do not let our kids run around all hours of the night, having parties, smoke and drink and that's what they were use too. Ugh. So this is my first blog and I hope I did out. I have been hesitant on posting because I have to much held up inside but then I figured thats the best reason to post, to let it all out! Thanks for reading