SD12 came home from school yesterday wearing one of DH's hoodies she never asked, just wore it. Shes done this before with a t shirt of his too. DH says its not a big deal but I find it extremely weird. Opinions?
I don't think it's weird to prefer hoodies and t-shirts, I do myself - but my dad's clothes would have been way too big for me. If he's okay with it, no big deal.
I find it odd. I wouldn't have ever worn my dads clothes either. Or my moms even.
SD here went through a period of having to wear every single day she was here either something of her moms or clothes that were from her moms and refusing to wear anything from our house to demonstrate in yet another way that her mom was better in us and I think also as a way for her to make sure her mom had kind of a presence in our house. So my mind immediately jumps to that it could be symbolizing something for her.
It could also be that she just likes the sweatshirt and feels comfortable enough to just take it and wear it. I wouldnt have from my parents so I find it weird yeah, but you're the one who actually knows her and what would be consistent with her personality.
I don't think it's weird to borrow a shirt or hoodie. I was a YUGE Daddy's Girl. He would let me wear his jackets, his flannel shirts, his chooks, his gloves... It's not like she's wearing his intimates.
My neighbors daughter wears nothing but her dads shirts because they’re really baggy on her. Recently they found out someone at school had called her fat so she didn’t want to wear anything that was even a little tight.
HA! I used to borrow my dad's t-shirts now and then. They were too big but that was the point back then. He also had a sweater I borrowed and a nice leather jacket! I just asked fist.
Oh boy. I'm embarrassed to admit it, but when polyester shirts were super popular in the early 90s, I borrowed a few vintage gems from my dad's closet. Those things were fantastic, but my mom looked at me like I grew a third eye when she busted me. Dad just laughed.
I'd have a problem if she was coming in my room and pawing through closets and drawers to find his things. My room even if I share it with DH is not fair game for random explorations by anyone that I do not give explicit permission.
Back in the 90s when I was in middle school it was super popular to have oversized t-shirts and hoodies, so I used to take my dad's too. The style is repeating itself for some reason (it's hideous really) so that could be why. I would suggest whoever is buying her clothes have her buy the oversize stuff she prefers.
I wore an article of my dad's clothing on a few occassions when I was in my early to mid teens. Particularly when he was on an extended business trip. I missed him. It helped me feel close to him.
If this is an isolated thing, it likely is a non issue.
I was close with my dad and didn't wear his clothes. My SD has been wearing my hoodie all weekend. She thinks it's her dad's because he gave it to her to wear one night but it's actually mine... I personally would find it not OK because my DH specifically told me when we first got together and again when we moved in together he loves when I wear his clothing and finds it a turn on and symbolic of us being together. So... with that in mind, I would find it very off putting.
I think children should be taught to ask permission. It helps them learn respect for other people's property and helps them realize that other people, including their parents, are people too. I borrowed my Mom's clothes but I always asked and sometimes she said "yes," other times "no." When they were married BM used to take DH's personal belongings for herself without asking. She taught SD's that what is DH's is theirs. YSD stole a couple of pairs of DH's expensive hiking socks without asking. Now she freely steals things that she finds and decides they are "lost" rather than misplaced or temporarily set down. She pillages lost and found piles and takes whatever she wants. I think it's obnoxious and probably sad for rightful owners that check lost and found for their missing belongings only to find SD wearing their stuff. I'd love to be a fly on the wall when she gets called out on it.
Agree. It's not the actual sweatshirt here, more so the entitlement.
I collect coffee mugs and SD grabbed one (without asking) one day to make hot chocolate. Normally, I wouldn't care. But SD is the type that leaves dishes in her room for days on end.
No, I don't want my personal items to be taken without being asked AND ruined. It was a hard line for me to draw. I simply said, "can you please use another cup?" Of course guilty DH was shocked that I told little princess to buzz off, but I told him if he taught his daughter to respect other people's property, then it wouldn't have been an issue.
Ignore it. The both seem ok
Ignore it. The both seem ok with it.
I don't think it's weird to
I don't think it's weird to prefer hoodies and t-shirts, I do myself - but my dad's clothes would have been way too big for me. If he's okay with it, no big deal.
I find it odd. I wouldn't
I find it odd. I wouldn't have ever worn my dads clothes either. Or my moms even.
SD here went through a period of having to wear every single day she was here either something of her moms or clothes that were from her moms and refusing to wear anything from our house to demonstrate in yet another way that her mom was better in us and I think also as a way for her to make sure her mom had kind of a presence in our house. So my mind immediately jumps to that it could be symbolizing something for her.
It could also be that she just likes the sweatshirt and feels comfortable enough to just take it and wear it. I wouldnt have from my parents so I find it weird yeah, but you're the one who actually knows her and what would be consistent with her personality.
My parents never wore
My parents never wore anything I'd have liked to borrow, except maybe the occasional dressing up situation, and with my mother's permission.
I don't think it's weird to
I don't think it's weird to borrow a shirt or hoodie. I was a YUGE Daddy's Girl. He would let me wear his jackets, his flannel shirts, his chooks, his gloves... It's not like she's wearing his intimates.
My neighbors daughter wears
My neighbors daughter wears nothing but her dads shirts because they’re really baggy on her. Recently they found out someone at school had called her fat so she didn’t want to wear anything that was even a little tight.
Yeah I feel like this one is
Yeah I feel like this one is really hard to judge without more context because there could be a lot of different reasons.
HA! I used to borrow my dad
HA! I used to borrow my dad's t-shirts now and then. They were too big but that was the point back then. He also had a sweater I borrowed and a nice leather jacket! I just asked fist.
Oh boy. I'm embarrassed to
Oh boy. I'm embarrassed to admit it, but when polyester shirts were super popular in the early 90s, I borrowed a few vintage gems from my dad's closet. Those things were fantastic, but my mom looked at me like I grew a third eye when she busted me. Dad just laughed.
I'd have a problem if she was
I'd have a problem if she was coming in my room and pawing through closets and drawers to find his things. My room even if I share it with DH is not fair game for random explorations by anyone that I do not give explicit permission.
Back in the 90s when I was in
Back in the 90s when I was in middle school it was super popular to have oversized t-shirts and hoodies, so I used to take my dad's too. The style is repeating itself for some reason (it's hideous really) so that could be why. I would suggest whoever is buying her clothes have her buy the oversize stuff she prefers.
A non issue.
A non issue.
I wore an article of my dad's clothing on a few occassions when I was in my early to mid teens. Particularly when he was on an extended business trip. I missed him. It helped me feel close to him.
If this is an isolated thing, it likely is a non issue.
My SD and her annoying aunt
My SD and her annoying aunt do this. If DH lends them a hoodie they act like Doby when he got a sock, and the hoodie is as good as gone.
Not weird though to borrow a parents' clothing, pretty normal.
Well, I don't think is weird,
Well, I don't think is weird, like super weird.
If it's all the time it's kinda weird.
Idk I think it's odd
I was close with my dad and didn't wear his clothes. My SD has been wearing my hoodie all weekend. She thinks it's her dad's because he gave it to her to wear one night but it's actually mine... I personally would find it not OK because my DH specifically told me when we first got together and again when we moved in together he loves when I wear his clothing and finds it a turn on and symbolic of us being together. So... with that in mind, I would find it very off putting.
YIKES!
YIKES!
I think children should be
I think children should be taught to ask permission. It helps them learn respect for other people's property and helps them realize that other people, including their parents, are people too.
I borrowed my Mom's clothes but I always asked and sometimes she said "yes," other times "no."
When they were married BM used to take DH's personal belongings for herself without asking. She taught SD's that what is DH's is theirs. YSD stole a couple of pairs of DH's expensive hiking socks without asking. Now she freely steals things that she finds and decides they are "lost" rather than misplaced or temporarily set down. She pillages lost and found piles and takes whatever she wants. I think it's obnoxious and probably sad for rightful owners that check lost and found for their missing belongings only to find SD wearing their stuff. I'd love to be a fly on the wall when she gets called out on it.
Agree. It's not the actual
Agree. It's not the actual sweatshirt here, more so the entitlement.
I collect coffee mugs and SD grabbed one (without asking) one day to make hot chocolate. Normally, I wouldn't care. But SD is the type that leaves dishes in her room for days on end.
No, I don't want my personal items to be taken without being asked AND ruined. It was a hard line for me to draw. I simply said, "can you please use another cup?" Of course guilty DH was shocked that I told little princess to buzz off, but I told him if he taught his daughter to respect other people's property, then it wouldn't have been an issue.
Sometimes they have to learn the hard way.