I soooo missunderstood "meeting cheaters." I thought there was some magic way to cheat at work related meetings and you were ace at it...my mind was so confused for a second there!

Well I have the "talent" of falling for narcissists (one of them being a cheater) and not realizing it until waaaaay too late. I'm getting better though. 

Hopefully you will start to recognize it more quickly. 

Tbh, I am enjoying being single and will very likely stay that way. 

He would be mad if the situation was reversed but would work on it.   Bahahahhahahahaha!  Thanks for the laugh.  I needed that tonight!  Gitl, you are well rid of this asswipe.  Get to a gyno and make sure he did not leave you with a "going away present" and then forget you ever knew him.

That's your website!

Another womens boyfriends msg me on facebook complaining there girlfriends cheating with my bf would be more than enough. 

I'm sure if the shoe was on the other foot he wouldnt put up with it either. How are you a bitch because you dont want to be cheated on. Lol 99% of people in a loving relationship dont want to be cheated on. 

Just cut your losses change your number and never have contact with this goose again move on with your life. He just a loser with a capital L. 

I don't know about limits but this makes me very thankful that I'm married.  If DH dies before me, this very much convinces me that I should stay single...

If I'm casually dating someone that's just for fun?

They chew their food too loudly, they wear an off-putting cologne, they text me before 9am or after 10pm on a weekday, they think it's "so cool" that I'm a nerd girl and they want to compare our nerdiness (read: test my nerdiness)...

This is why I didn't date. I'd get to maybe a 3rd date and be totally turned off by behavior/conversation.

If I were already dating someone who had drama, and someone added more drama (true or not), I'd probably just leave. I'm not interested in dealing with it if I'm not married to you or have intentions of marrying you.

Oh, paint, it's your picker that's off.  As for my line in the sand?  Your situation would definitely be it.  NO ONE should put up with someone who doesn't value them.  

That's way past my line in the sand. 

I might be able to deal with a drunken mistake that he apologized for profusely and felt incredibly guilty about. But this is a guy who will screw anything that lets him - cut your losses now. 

After the s*** show I've been in... I'd say event he conversations are too much... H claims that he "was only going to talk to floozy" but it escalates... That's not a conversations going too far in my eyes any more. It shows intent.  IMHO.

I'm with tog, a STUPID drunken mistake is one thing (and would still take hella effort and time) but this is something completely different...

I'm sorry Paintcrisis

ETA: He also "only downloaded tinder to talk to people and there was ZERO flirting" *eye roll* There's always an excuse. But an excuse is never good enough to overstep certain boundaries.

I think that someone's limit on staying with a cheater would depend a lot upon the balance of the relationship.  If it was a rock solid relationship with no drama and I felt that I was respected and valued and a priority and there was one act of indiscretion.. perhaps my DH went to a reunion and got friendly with a HS girlfriend after a few too many shots.. and nothing "below the belt" occured?

I might be really pissed.. and I might stay angry for a long time about it.. but I might feel like I could work through this and that the balance of our life was worth saving.

Now, with MY EXH.... he was a Heckhole. and a jerk.  He had a hard time keeping a job and it was never his fault.  He made my life more difficult and complicated and wasn't supportive of me.  When HE cheated.. it was done. over.  He did not get a pass.

In your case, I think there were plenty of negatives before this came up to not even want to be in a relationship with him.. the cheating would have made my mind up for sure.

This guy sure is big on the romance...wow the dive bar bathroom. He is so desparate for sex that he is not even willing to do what most horny guys do and hang out at the bar waiting to hit on someone. He has to find someone to text with before hand so that he can pester her to have public sex with him. Or how about find an online date and wine and dine his potential affair partner or I don't know book a motel room or something. No his go-to is to just buy her a couple of drinks at the dive bar and expect to be able to stumble a few feet to the bathroom so that he get his end away. He is disgusting! 

I am so glad that somone told you what was going on. Time to get out of that relationship pronto. You deserve so much more than a horny creep of a guy. 

That includes:

Emotional infidelity

Financial infidelity

Physical infidelity

Anything else with another women, even via texting.

I dated a guy who actually expected me to sit at home, pining, while he went out with his buddies. He called one night, asking where I was (cuz I wasn't at home!). "OUT." "Who with?" "Friends." "When will you be back?" "Dunno. Maybe Sunday afternoon."(this was Friday night) Man, was he p!ssed!

When a man doesn't treat me with respect and as an equal, I'm OUT.

ETA: Sorry, Paint. You might want to take some time to figure out WHAT this guy had that you found attractive. Is it a quality you liked in others? You may need to adjust your picker to throw up a red flag.

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My limit is zero cheating. No flirty texts, no borderline inappropriate work-wife BFFs, absolutely no online dating profiles "just for fun." No drunken makeouts.  Jesus, do some people actually consider these things acceptable? I guess people really do have different standards.

ETA you deserve much better than any of that. 

My last relationship was a high school sweetheart. I caught him texting dirty things to a classmate during his senior year, and then during his graduation I caught him again with a different girl. I drew the line a few years later when he was getting comfortable with my underage cousin.