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OT - WTF Parenting: Pandemic Edition

lieutenant_dad's picture

This is a rant that is very broad and very general about my hometown. I understand that there are families who are single parents and/or shoestring incomes for a variety of valid reasons that the following rant does not apply to. 

I live one major town over from my hometown. Now, my hometown is not "rich", but it is solidly middle-to-upper middle class for 90% of the inhabitants. Rent prices are $1100-1600 a month, and it's not in a big city. Town residents successfully petitioned for "working income housing" to not be built in the town despite the town building an obscene number of warehouses and factories that pay ~$12-16/hr. Very much so a place that is happy to be built off the backs of blue collar workers so long as those workers don't live in their community.

Anyway, the school has gone to e-learning in the wake of COVID-19. E-learning is not new. They've had it for a few years and utilize it for snow days. Additionally, the kids all have online homework that they have to do from time-to-time. In other words, parents should not be surprised by the fact that their kid needs access to a computer for schooling. Hell, I needed access to a computer for school 15+ years ago.

So why are these middle class parents JUST NOW freaking out over the fact that their kids needs a computer?!?! The person who specifically set the scene stated that his wife is currently in school and home during the day with her own laptop for school, and he's going to be working from home on his personal computer, so what are his kids supposed to use?!?!

ARE YOU F**KING KIDDING ME?! It hasn't occurred to these people who live in $250,000+ homes where one parent CAN choose not to work and the other has the ability to work from home (meaning they recognize that a job can be done remotely) and e-learning isn't some new concept that swept through in the night that maybe - JUST MAYBE - your kids needs a $250-500 laptop to do schoolwork on?!

AND this school district had a WEEK'S NOTICE that it was likely going e-learning after the neighboring district had confirmed cases of COVID-19, and the Governor made statements about schools needing to close, and parents were BEGGING for it, and notices were being sent out publically about the response...

I don't even have kids who go to that school and I knew on Thursday that they were definitely going e-learning for 3 weeks! It wasn't a surprise to anyone, except apparently this dolt. Christ, my phone costs more than a cheap laptop with access to the internet!

This makes my blood boil. There are actual parents struggling to figure out childcare, who are working odd hours, who are barely making it for legitimate reasons. But these middle-class, elitist a$$wipes want to complain from their BY CHOICE single-income household that they don't know what they're "supposed to do" about a laptop for their kid?! AND THEN THEY WANT TO BLAME THE SCHOOL?!?!

Sell your television and go get a laptop! Check out FB Marketplace for a cheapie. Open a damn credit card at Best Buy/Target/any retailer that sells them. Take out that emergency money you should have set aside for your big house and single-income household. Failure on your part to prepare is NOT an emergency on the school!

No, I don't know this person. Yes, they may have a legitimate reason why they don't have an extra laptop. But it's SEVERAL people making similar claims in a town that I won't live in because it's too expensive, and DH and I make six figures! There are poor people for sure, but the loudest complainers who are wagging their finger at the school seem to be the parents from Fahrenheit 451 who are upset that they have to take their earbuds out and stop mixing their downers with their uppers long enough to fix a fairly small problem that they've had time to prepare for!

UGH!

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Monkeysee's picture

I’m feeling very done with people right now. Between panic buying & selfish, entitled attitudes like you’ve described above, I’m actually glad to be staying at home right now. Think I might turn off social media for a while as well to avoid the dipsh*ts who are so stuck up their own a$$es they can still manage to turn themselves into victims from a place of absolute privilege. I’m sure they can order a freaking laptop online, last I checked people aren’t panic buying laptops. There are people who are facing not being able to feed their babies because others are stockpiling formula, and others who are are/will be financially crippled because they either lose their businesses or have to quit their jobs to be at home with their kids. If the worst of your problem is a GD laptop, I’m sure mommee and daddee can figure it TF out. Seriously.

ProbablyAlreadyInsane's picture

I mean, this about sums up the entire attitude of this pandemic... Everyone is being completely selfish.  They NEED everything handed to them. They NEED to buy out the entire store of necessities.  They NEED to take whatever they want.  It's turned into a giant clusterf***.  I mean I went with a friend to pick up their regular monthly meat order from some butcher shop and it was CHAOS.  There was a line outside the door and shelves were nearly bare.  I just don't. get. it.

Disneyfan's picture

I get the fear that many are showing.  People are afraid that we will be locked down like Italy.  If we had competent leadership, many wouldn't be in panic mode.  

ProbablyAlreadyInsane's picture

It's not the leadership at question.  People have a tendency to panic.  They're pushing for hand-washing and not touching faces and social-distancing.

Even if we do get locked down temporarily, people are literally MASS buying for months to come, which is preventing others from getting necessities.  I mean at our stores we were lacking a LOT of the basics (and strangely OJ...  Which is going to do NOTHING for a virus...)

No matter who was in charge, what's going on in the rest of the world and the fact that the world has declared a pandemic is going to cause some level of panic among people.  But the fact of the matter is, everyone needs to calm down and take a breather for a second.

Disneyfan's picture

If people had not been mislead from the start, we would not be seeing this level of panic.  Had we accepted the tests kits that were offered,  we would not be seeing this level of panic.  Had we not been hell bent on dismantling everything that was in place previously, we wouldn't be seeing this level of panic.  If we didn't have ego, envy, ignorance and incompetence at the helm, we wouldn't be seeing this level of panic. 

People are not going to calm down because they can't trust what is being said/done by leadership.

We didn't see this level of panic after 911.  

 

 

queensway's picture

UMMM yes it is a leadership question. Really. Wake up. They new about this virus a year ago, DID NOTHING! Calm down my a$$.

Disneyfan's picture

I'm sick of the entitled, self centered attitudes of folks that should not be financially stressed by any of this.   

NYC public schools will be closed for AT LEAST 5 weeks.  We may end up remaining closed for the rest of the school year.  Everyone is out today.  Teachers go in tomorrow thru Thursday for training on the remote learning program each district will utilize. 

More than 90% of the students in my school are eligible for free or reduced meals. (All students receive free meals regardless of income, but families still have to fill out lunch forms in order to determine which schools are eligible for Title I funding)  A little more than 55% are in some level of transitional housing.

These are the families one would expect to worry about how their kids will access the sessions and materials needed for remote learning.

 

DPW's picture

I'm sick of it as well. Live paycheck to paycheck. Live as a single parent. Live with a disability on a fixed income. Live on low employmnet insurance because you've lost your job. We had to temporarily close our business today. I only have my income from my employer to pay personal and business expenses and it's not going to happen; and I'm still thankful that I have so much more than others during these times. We have to be good to each other, sheesh. 

advice.only2's picture

It's something to complain about, and in the "look at me" society we now live in due to social media, this is just a way for that person to go "look at me and how I am being affected by this pandemic".

HowLongIsForever's picture

I am in a very conservative area.  I wouldn't even call it moderate leaning.  It is yet another example of my role as the black sheep in this lifetime.  : )

The tone set in this area is always every man for himself.  The irony being not a single one of them is truly self sufficient or capable of living entirely off grid.

People are angry at the steps the state and local governments are taking to address the pandemic.  They complain about the bans on large crowds, crowing about being robbed of freedom of assembly.  They complain about limits on high demand items at the grocery store, arguing it's their right to purchase if they have the money to do so.  They poke at the state, saying the governor can't make decisions for herself and is just doing what neighboring states are calling for - as if a concerted effort amongst neighboring governments is ignorant or worse some sort of weakness.  And they do it with no shame; publicly, loudly, in front of patrons, in writing, online, etc. 

It's not mass panic around here.  Its mass aholery.  What's good for the goose is only good for the gander if you are somehow both goose and gander.  Its really been disheartening to see it in action and we haven't even seen the worst of it yet.

 

justmakingthebest's picture

I agree!! Chrome books are cheap. 

Here (we live in an upper middle class area- house prices tend to be north of 300K for a 3bd, rent is 1300-2400) there was a survey we were asked to do over the phone about internet and computer and if you didn't have access they have laptops to pick up with wifi hotspots. 

ESMOD's picture

I live in an area with a lot of "rural" areas that don't have high speed internet access.  We have developments with homes over half a million dollars.. and I still see the posts from people saying.  "building our new home.. what company is best for internet".. it's not a matter of what is best.. it's if you have any access at all!!

I'm lucky and do have access... via cable modem.  So I am not stuck working with iffy sattelite options.. or paying through the nose for cellular.

this is a big challenge for school systems that have people in rural areas.. or have a mix of wealthy and those who have less.

 

Aniki-Moderator's picture

People have lost their freaking minds and there are quite a few idiots I'd like to smack in the back of the head.

The head honcho mandated all rooms have COVID-19 symptoms posted and handwashing instructions posted in all restrooms. One of my coworkers went off about honcho "fear-mongering". That coworker - Stinky - could certainly benefit from a freaking BATH and some deodorant.

A friend of mine's niece cannot find special formula for her baby (he has allergies) because all of it was purchased and she doesn't know how she can feed her baby. 

Another friend is a single mother AND a nurse. Her sons' school was closed. They are too young to stay home alone, but there is no childcare available in her area. She is hoping she can send them to her grandparents in another state which compounds her worries because of the exposure (airport/flying). 

I have friends who live paycheck-to-paycheck and don't get paid until THIS Friday. They are worried there will not be food and supplies available for them. They cannot afford to 'hoard'. They just need the things they buy every 2 or 4 weeks. 

We have neighbors who are in their 80s and scared to go out. So scared that they would not open the door and told me to leave their things on the porch and they'd get them later. I asked if they would open their garage because I was worried someone might steal it. 

And I'm going to a funeral Friday. Unless "gatherings" of that size are "forbidden". 

 

At this point, I am so sick of the true fear-mongers and arseholes and dipshidiots that I'd like to be on a remote island with my DH and NO media.

ESMOD's picture

Thank you for helping your older neighbors... that is the kind of thing that will help the higher risk people not be as exposed to large numbers of people.

for the folks on assistance.. I actually am not all that concerned that the stores won't restock and that the "hoarders" will eventually run out of resources to buy.. or storage space to keep the 27 packs of toilet paper they insist  that they need.  It's just like stores having a run of milk and bread when they forecast snow.. the difference here is that the supply chain will still likely be able to deliver these kinds of goods. 

It's unfortunate you have people like the "entrepreneurs" in TN that hoarded every loose bottle of hand sanitizer within hundreds of miles.... they were miffed that amazon shut down their sales.. and probably even more miffed when the state came down on them and they started getting death threats..lol.

I have enough TP to last me a couple of weeks I'm guessing.. I may buy another pack if I come across it in the next couple of weeks because I would normally buy ahead of my need... but I'm not buying 10 packs!   I'm not going to see my 90 yo dad.. but call daily to check on him.

I do think we are maybe going a bit overboard and insane.. we have had other pandemics that we didn't react to so harshly.. and it's not the "death rate" etc.. because arguably other pandemics have been worse for younger people which is really a much bigger concern.  Im not trying to be callous when I say that pretty much any strain of pnemonia would likely descimate nursing home residents who by default are much more immune compromised than the general public and in much more fragile health. I know people of other ages are being infected though.. and perhaps stepping back on social distancing will slow the spread so that any vaccine that is developed has a chance to get out to the public.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

ESMOD, their children live in other states, so I will do whatever I can to help them. 

Those entremanures... I hope they're stuck with a lifetime supply of those things and end up leaving them to someone in their wills. Farking iceholes.

My #1 concern is my Dad. He's had some medical problems since December and I'm praying he (and SM) will not get sick.

Harry's picture

Not to babysit them.  Feed them.  People want children, but don't want to take care of them.  
let the school feed them so I don't have to do that.  Give them breakfast and dinner.  Please so I don't have to worry about that.  

bananaseedo's picture

Have you heard of empathy? I hope you fall on hard times and your words come back to bite you-HARD>