Gaming/Streaming
OK so need to get some thoughts on this subject. SS19 is a MAJOR gamer. I mean since I met his father when he was 14 he literally spends 12-24 hours at a time gaming. He does well in school and is now home from 1st year in college. again grades seem to be OK. He has very little social life, everything seems to be behind the screen. He claims he makes $ "streaming" and doens't really need a summer job. A huge bugaboo of mine is that he doesn't work and has only had PT jobs all during HS during the summer. I fear this kid won't "launch" and he will be living with us after college to pay off loans. So far he had money from his dead SM for his 1s year. now he has to make $ this summer. He claims he can do this streaming and make good $. I think it is the height of laziness and gives him ZERO social skills for a "real" job when he graduates (engineering). Maybe I am naive and just shouldn't care. Wanted to get some thoughts out there...should I just leave this one? thank you all!!
Thank you for the response!!!
Thank you for the response!!! Yes, apparently if you are very very good at this game (Call of Duty) pwople will pay you to watch you play monthly? oh well. It is ludicrous. Kid plays for 12 hours a day, then sleeps 12 hours a day. Maybe i am an old crud who just doesn't get it...maybe social skills mean nothing and everything will be done in front of a computer. just bizarre. this kid has like 2 Three Dimensional friends who he never sees. DIdn't do prom, any graduation parties...just bizarre...
SM to nerdy teen boys here
SM to nerdy teen boys here who also happens to be a nerd herself. Yes, people can make money streaming through Twitch, YouTube, and Patreon. Twitch allows you to subscribe to content that people make (very similar to folks who would pay for an ESPN package for their television). YouTube provides ad revenue (very similar to how traditional television makes money off ads and viewers). Patreon is more like "tipping" someone or being a more traditional "patron of the arts" who pays a set amount to support an artist so they can create content.
If your SS is a good and engaging gamer, it's quite possible that he makes money. To make good money, he'd have to have some social skills, or at least good acting skills. It's not just the playing that people watch; it's the commentary and social interaction between the streamer and their fans. It's possible that he's having a lot of social interaction with others, even if not face to face.
Keep in mind, too, that many streamers have to plot out what they'll play, create drama in what they're playing, edit their videos, come up with new ideas to keep people entertained, etc. It's definitely not traditional work, but it's the modern television for younger generations. It's replacing traditional television, but younger generations still expect it to be interesting. That has to be manufactured. It also isn't super cheap to do since you need decent mics, computer set-up, editing software, games, etc.
Should you be worried? Eh. Even if you should be, there isn't much you can do to make him change his mind. What you CAN do is make it clear to your spouse that either you or their kid will live with you after college (or whatever launch date you've set), but not both.
Thank you all! wow, I realize
Thank you all! wow, I realize how little I know. You are all amazingly helpful. Thank you. and yes Lietentant Dad, I plan to make sure that message is clear about SS living with us post college...I fear the kid has no ability to launch..you know little things, pay bills, put gas in the car, etc...LOL...
Those are things that your
Those are things that your husband needs to make sure that his son knows.
I'd make sure the rules are clear and consistent. He doesn't work because he doesn't need to- no additional money from DH, Move Out date, etc.
I had a huge long response
I had a huge long response breaking down how much social media influencers (streamers etc) make because I taught a kid who has chosen to start that career before he graduated his Senior year in High School. I was just as confused about his choice because he has so much potential so I asked many questions. Basically: it is possible your stepson is making money streaming depending on how many followers he has which is also based on how good/likable he is....the way they make money is ad revenue (putting ads or doing an ad during the stream) or doing promos for products where usually the payment for this is the product for free or limited subscription which again he wont qualify for without having enough followers (Im talking tens of thousands).
He wont launch....at least not in this decade....because everyone and their brother want to be "social media influencers" and the market is now over-saturated. You and your DH need to sit down with him and let him know that while he pursues his dream career, he also needs to make ends meet and help out which includes helping in grocery money and living expenses OR show monthly savings towards an apartment or other living arrangements in the future. You both need to come up with a specific date that he will need to be out by. He can sort out a part time job working 30-35 hours at a local retailer or resturant and work around his streaming schedule. This will not work if your husband is not behind you all the way.
I like the idea of him
I like the idea of him getting a part time job--like maybe 20 hrs a week or so? Bring this up to him in a way that still sounds supportive of his gaming aspirations. Explain how having this extra job could help him acquire the equipment and things he needs in order to achieve his gamer goals, and how it would be helpful in case he has a slow week for gaming income and needs to pay bills. To you, this gets him out and doing something in the world. To him, it sounds like you've put some thought into it and actually understand and want to help. It wouldn't hurt to do a little research on some notable gamers and find out how they started. A lot of big name influencers had regular jobs for a long time before they were able to start making a livable income from gaming, youtube, etc. And a lot of them share their stories and/or helpful getting started tips too. Just being a little more educated on the subject will give you a better leg to stand on with him, I think.
He 'says' he makes good money
He 'says' he makes good money streaming. No more telling, time for some showing. Demand that DH sit down with him and review all of his bank and financial records to bare the BS he is invariably slinging. If he isn't making any money, shut down the internet and introduce him to the local landscaping contractor.
video games
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He will be living in your
He will be living in your basement playing video games until he is 30. Doesn't matter if he does well in school, but doesn't apply himself.
When SD was younger she was beyond obnoxious about playing roblox on the ipad. DH didn't enforce any screentime. I turned the wifi off to the device. She of course didn't get it. Would stomp off when it "quit working" and finally went outside. Probably not the right thing for me to do, but hey, it got her to exercise. DH certainly wasn't going to make her. Your SS is probably too smart for that though.