Bare with me as this is my fist entry :) 

A little back story about my step parent journey: I've been in my skids life since they were 3 and 4. They live out of state and we have gotten them for summer break and alternating holidays. My sd who is now almost 12 has not come for summer break for 2 years now. Which I get that she's getting older and wants to hang out with her friends but I also think that if it was the other way around Bm would not let her come and stay more often. Anyways back to my latest dilemma, after she had decided not to come this past summer (she and my oldest who is almost 15 shared a room with bunk beds as we have a 3 bedroom with 4 kids when they are all here) we decided to get rid if the bunk beds as my oldest started high school. My Sd saw that they were gone via social media and immediately for defensive and started asking questions. Instead of being up front and telling her its because my oldest is getting older my spouse said we were getting new beds because he said he didn't want her to feel some type of way. Fast forward to now weeks before Christmas and she is asking about her non existent bed for the one week a year she comes down. Should I force my oldest to have bunk beds for one week a year? Am I crazy for thinking its ridiculous to have a whole bedroom set for a child who comes once a year? Before last summer we did but now it seems like pulling teeth to get her to come so I don't see why we should have to keep the bunk beds.