Dear Valued Users,
It's with a heavy heart that we announce the permanent closure of StepTalk.org on August 31st, 2025.
This decision wasn't an easy one. For over twenty years, StepTalk has been a source of support for stepparents around the world! However, over the years, the costs associated with maintaining and upgrading the site to remain secure, meet current standards and maintain availability have become unsustainable.
We are incredibly grateful for your support, contributions and the community you've helped us build. Your engagement has made StepTalk.org a special place and we cherish the memories and connections made here.
We would especially like to thank Aniki for volunteering to be a moderator and for caring so much.
Thank you for being a part of our journey and we wish you all the best.
Sincerely,
Dawn and The StepTalk Team
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Lololol. Let me guess...you
Lololol. Let me guess...you saw this coming from a mile away, yet her 2 parents were in denial about it.
I'm amazed that neither of
I'm amazed that neither of them has figured out the obvious Disney parent solution -- sit at the computer and just do them for the child. Two parents, two computers. They could get it done quickly. No need to involve YSD at all.
* Please use appropriate sardonic tone when reading above.
That is the best solution but
That is the best solution but dumb and dumber have never bothered to learn how to log on or use the virtual classroom. Hence why they have no idea that she is really not doing her work.
I was talking with my friend about thier awesome parenting and why they will never change. I know BM likes the drama and the poor me my kids are so bad victim mentality. She loves having something to cry to people about for sympathy, hence why she only does things that perpetuate the problems.
I still haven't figured out what SO gets out of it. He doesn't play the victim. He will actually lie about how great his kids are when asked. He definitely shows learned helplessness and believes he is powerless to change anything. With him I suspect he is looking for me to just parent for him so he doesn't have to deal with it and can just be fun dad.
Never going to happen.
Your SO is just a lazy parent
Your SO is just a lazy parent - if you think he wants you to do it, then he's probably the "raising children is women's work type". Especially if he LIES about how great they are. He wants good kids, but doesn't feel like he should have to do the work. There are a lot of them.
Yes! This was always BM's
Yes! This was always BM's solution. "He's so overwhelmed that I'm letting him dictate the answers to me while I'm his scribe". One time he came to DH's (before we were married) with a project that BM obviously did for him.
When he was 11, BM pushed him to do his homework, and he said, "I'll jump off a bridge." Welp, that was the last time BM pushed him to do his school work, and 10 years later, he's still living in her home with no job, no school, no future.
I don't think I'd have stuck around if DH was like that with school work.
I've made myself abundantly
I've made myself abundantly clear to SO many times. I will not ever be responsible for an adult child. I see the writing on the wall very clearly.
IDK if he thinks I'm joking or what. But, his kids will have no place to live once DS launches I'm selling the house moving and downsizing so I can put more away for my retirement and purchase a vacation home.
DS and I have a favorite place we go all year round. I want to buy a place there and leave it in trust to DS. I already know better we are not getting married or ever combining finances or purchases.
Same here...I've been with my
Same here...I've been with my SO 18 years and no way I'm getting married and having one cent go to him. In my state at least 1/3 of the estate must go to your spouse. They don't like spouses to be disinherited. I'm sure there are prenups, trusts, etc to get around it but it's just easier this way.
YUP
I was the one who figured out parent portal, and then I was also the one that requested (er demanded) the google classroom credentials.
There was absolutely no interation with Toxic Troll. She just thought a few art assignments were missing (times about 10! spread evenly over 8 classes...)
DH tells me he has no patience, and I know this.
Munchkin is on track so far...