SD, age 19,  works at a retail store.  She doesn't have a driver's license.  She takes public transportation.  We live in a small town so public transportation isn't always available. SD has called DH on multiple occasions to pick her up at work and take her back to BMs. We live 30 minutes away from her job.  DH will just drop everything unless he is at work to pick her up. SD doesn't plan anything in advance.  She always waits until she needs a ride home to call.  Everyone is supposed to stop what they are doing and pick her up.

Yesterday, DH and I decide to go to a restaurant over an hour away from home.  The restaurant has a beautiful lake view.  It also spotty cell phone service and NO wifi. DH could see that SD called but couldn't call her back due to not having any service or spotty service.  We were sitting outside enjoying the view before ordering our food.  We stayed there for 3 or 4 hours.

DH doesn't call SD when we get home.  We clean up and decide to watch a movie.  DH looks at his phone at the end of the movie.  There were 10 minutes left so he pauses to talk to SD after I asked him to finish watching the movie and then call her. He couldn't wait.  He just HAD to know what she needed.  

SD is MAD.  She had to wait 2 hours at the store before she could get a ride home from work.  DH asked her why didn't she take the bus.  She told him she didn't have the  2 bucks for the bus ride.  After she pays for her credit card bill, rent ($100), and groceries, she didn't have any money left from her paycheck.   She said that the store cut her hours.  

DH offered to pay for a monthly bus pass.  SD then tells DH that the bus wasn't running regular hours.  She would not have been able to take the bus at all.  She tells DH that she is mad and that she is going to bed.  Of course, this isn't her fault for poor planning it is BM's fault, her sister's fault,  and DH's fault because they didn't answer their phones.  

DH is upset after her call.  I told him SD needed to plan better.  She could:

A.  Find a better job with better pay and hours that matched the bus schedule

B.  Get her driver's license and buy a used car

C.  Get a second job if she doesn't want to quit the first one

D.  Talk to her boss about her transportation issues.  He may be able to change her hours to match the bus schedule.

I am almost certain that her hours didn't get cut. Retail stores are begging people to work.  I am almost certain that she blew all of her money and wanted everyone else to bail her out. DH paid for her cell phone last month.  It is already turned off and she uses Facebook to call people now.  She lied to DH and told him that BM was charging her $500 a month for rent when she was only charging $100.

If anyone tries to give her advice she tells them she is a "grown ass" woman and doesn't need anyone to help her.   I wanted so much to tell DH that he really needs to tell her whenever she calls for money or a ride that she is a "grown ass" woman and she  doesn't need any help.