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Submitted by Jcksjj on Sat, 09/18/2021 - 10:35am

SD showed up. Ran down to her room immediately. DH went down to talk to her for a bit. Then he told her he needed her iPad, because aren't going to allow her to use electronics unsupervised in our home. SD ran into the bathroom with it, locked the door and called her mom. Her mom shows up right as we go downstairs. Her mom tells her to go outside and she starts screaming and bawling that she can't because we're at the door. So I tell her that her mom is outside so she can go out to her car. She runs past us sprints outside and her mom tells her to shut the door as if we're going to come outside after her.

Just f'ing ridiculous.

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Submitted by SteppedOut on Sat, 09/18/2021 - 10:59am

You really should make your husband visit his daughter outside the home, going forward. This chaos that surrounds her is damaging to your home-life. It's ALWAYS some bs. At a certain point, enough. You have certainly reached that point. 

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Submitted by tog redux on Sat, 09/18/2021 - 11:08am

Yeah, this is it. No more visits in your home. Your bio kids do not need to be part of this alienation drama. 

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Sat, 09/18/2021 - 11:12am

We are absolutely done. I think at this point too seeing her just hurts DH more than not. 

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Submitted by tog redux on Sat, 09/18/2021 - 11:13am

Yes. That's the point of no return. And honestly, it's not good for SD, either.  He should just keep the lines of communication open as best he can and see her outside the home if possible. 

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Sat, 09/18/2021 - 5:00pm

Yeah, as awful as SD is on her own, it's clear her mom put her in a tough position also. Not sure if she insisted on bringing the tablet and BM gave in as long as she keeps it away or if she sent it with on purpose but it should've just stayed home either way when she knows we don't allow it. There's never been a single instance of abuse or a time when we've prevented necessary communication regarding her getting picked up so the acting like something bad is going to happen if she can't have constant contact is ridiculous.

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Submitted by ndc on Sat, 09/18/2021 - 11:15am

Good for your husband to exercise some control and try to keep SD safe on the internet. That was the right thing to do, notwithstanding the result.  I agree with prior posters that it is time for him to see SD outside of your home.  The rest of the family doesn't need the drama that accompanies her. 

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Submitted by tog redux on Sat, 09/18/2021 - 11:18am

Yes. It's hard to keep being a parent in the face of alienation, but it's 100% the right thing to do.

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Submitted by Ispofacto on Sat, 09/18/2021 - 3:26pm

Too bad BM won't have a free babysitter anymore.  Play stupid games...

 

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Sat, 09/18/2021 - 4:30pm

She still thinks we're gonna break down and beg and plead to take her little mini monster.

Nope. Never. 

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Sat, 09/18/2021 - 4:55pm

Yes. Especially now I think because DS3 saw the dramatic bawling and running out to her moms car past us and was clearly trying to process what was going on. He kept saying "(SD) stay in the little car." Which is BMs car. Not 100% what he meant by that but he's clearly noticing and feeling what's going on.