You have no trust in her, she makes little time for you, she puts her adult kids ahead of you. Now you track her? WTH. You live in constant torment. For what?

Why dont cha get on the show Cheaters and bust her. Sarcasm here. Hey I get you want to catch her, but will that be your AHA! moment? Or will you continue on waiting to see where she places you?

Frankly this marriage is not a marriage. Stop with the games, be better than this. Without trust you have nothing pal, why even bother anymore?

Can we say leave yet? 

Blessings you deserve better.

Is never fun, but sometimes its necessary if you need that nudge.

the car tracking is good, and ring is good too, for the police stuff. I doubt she would bring someone to the house - if shes doing this is more likely at a notell hotel or the car.

Im glad it went well with the visit, but it sounds like you are going into a darker place with the relationship. You do not have trust and you know shes using you. Im sorry you are going through this, it sucks.

I hope you get to a better place with your findings. 

I was of the opinion that she was cheating. If true, she is having her cake and eating it, too. 

Cut Bait. This fish isn't worth the line or anything else you're investing. Too much drama and work to maintain a barely mediocre relationship. 

The lonliest I've ever been in my life was when I was married to my psycho ex. I was lying next to him in bed and could feel the miles between us. I would rather be alone than to be right next to someone and feel lonely.

I would end the relationship.  There is no trust there, and frankly, she doesn't sound like much of a prize anyway.  It seems that she's not enhancing your life, so move on and find what will.

You cross the line when you start tracking her. Doesn't matter if she's cheating, that's controlling behavior. Don't do it.

If you don't trust her, either address it with her like an adult or end the relationship. Stalking her only ends with you having a restraining order against you.

It's gross to be intimate with someone who isn't into it.  I couldn't do it.

I'm so curious what your end game is here?  It would appear you think very little of your SO and rather than be a rational adult and end things, you want to continue to play games…why? 

WHAT is keeping you in this relationship? You've been unhappy for a long time, your wife makes excuses not to spend time with you, and her kids are more important to her than you are. At this point it doesn't matter if she's cheating or not, does it?

Find a therapist, just for yourself, not a couples counselor. Figure out why you are willing to accept crumbs.

Forgive me if I'm wrong, but if my memory serves me correctly, you'd mentioned in an earlier post something to the effect that you didn't want to be alone and you find it hard to meet people because of your job.  You asked us to hold back on giving you the advice to just leave her.   However, after reading this last blog, we'd be completely remiss in our duties of being your friendly, advice giving "fellow S'talkers" by telling you to do anything other than to leave her. 

I don't know what you look like, I don't know if you snore, or eat with you mouth open or use profanity like a drunken sailor, but I can tell you that, even if you have all of those traits, you STILL deserve better than what you are currently settling for, and you will eventually find it.  Stop lying awake at night trying to devise schemes and traps and do yourself a huge favor.  Get out of this relationship.  If you honestly believe that she is having an affair, then she probably is because, in my experience, where there is smoke...   It's time to send her packing.  In a few short months from now, you will thank yourself for removing this toxicity from your life and putting yourself first.

Good luck.

Depends on what your goal is.  Might want to research local laws regarding kicking them out of your house.  Get your ducks in a row first do you don't screw yourself over.  If you need documentation to accomplish your goals then get it.  It might not be as easy as "get you and your crap outta my house ".   

Seriously, why are you still in this mess? Trackers, cameras? With all the issues you've already described, this is clearly NOT healthy and you are making yourself UNhealthy now. Take action. End this relationship and clean house. Then get to a therapist to find out why you have so little self worth. 

Look, I've been in a marriage with repeated infidelity and so I know that going through that completely skews your perception of reality and what is and isn't acceptable. Particularly if your partner is skilled at gaslighting, it's easy to begin to question anything and everything and then you're desperate to find out the truth and you think that it's okay to go to any lengths to get it.

I was very, very good at finding out the truth. Never installed trackers or anything like that, but I became obsessed with finding out all the little details of my husband's many affairs to build a case against him. To what purpose, I didn't even know. I just felt that I needed some sort of 100% airtight justification for leaving him. Let me tell you, gathering all those details and knowing everything did NOT help me one bit. It didn't make me feel better, it didn't make me more resolved to leave, it didn't give me any peace of mind. It was nothing but pain and prolonged torment. My time would have been much better spent starting therapy sooner and teaching myself to make and enforce boundaries, and to reset my intuition in order to learn to trust myself again. 

Continuing with this relationship doesn't seem like it will bring you anything but misery. You don't sound like you love this woman, and you certainly don't like her. So what's the point?