Well... it was a fun night last night... sarcastically speaking. I had a doctors appointment after work and I get a text from BM asking if I knew if DBF was going to conferences and that he wasn't responding to her messages. I called him and let him know that she was trying to contact him. After I get home from my doctors appointment he tells me that she wanted just him and her to go to the conferences, and he asked her why she wouldn't take her DH and she told him that she didn't want to bring their baby to the school and get her sick from covid. So DBF told her that he wasn't going until later and that they didn't need to go to conferences together and she cried on the phone saying that he wasn't co-parenting and that they should do everything together. DBF stated that that's not how things work and then she demanded to come to our house to pick up SD and bring her with her to conferences. (we don't let her come to our house because she feels like she can just walk into our house whenever she wants) So he said no, I'll drop her off at the school to you and me and cmd88 will be coming later and we will grab SD from you. BM started crying on the phone and said FINE! He shows up to drop SD off and there's BM crying in the parking lot, just like her to always make a scene. 

Later on, we get to conferences, (Me, DBF, and DD13) and we run into BM and SD and BM gets really close to DBF and says, "I thought you weren't coming to conferences?!!!!" And he said no, I told you that we were coming later. Then she walks away with SD, we go about the conferences about both of the girls, towards the end, we run into BM again, and she starts yelling at DBF in the middle of the hallway, in front of 3 other families waiting to talk to the teachers, they also had their kids with them, So I tell SD and DD13 to go see if they need to grab anything from their lockers... She's yelling at DBF saying that he's not co-parenting, and that things aren't like they used to be like when they were together, and everytime she talks to him she says she cries, and that they need to do everything together when it's involving SD and she needed to know DBF's schedule every single day, and that he needs to text and talk to her every single day. He stood there and calmy said, "No, that's not what co-parenting means, you already know that days I have SD and we don't have to do everything together as we aren't together, and you didn't even know that our daughter was failing!" She was like "Oh so you're better than me!???" He said no, you just don't check on SD to make sure she doesn't have homework to do, and you never ask her how she is doing in her classes, you didn't even know that she was failing, and you didn't even go to the other conferences. And then she started yelling again, and kept asking why things couldn't be like they were, crying, and then finally another family showed up that my DBF knew and started talking to him. 

BM goes down the hallway to SD and starts yelling about DBF and then she storms off and leaves.... 

Ya'll I have been nice on here, and nice to her. I help my SD because I want her to succeed, my DD13 is now passing all of her classes as well, because I push both of them to succeed. My SD may be a clingy brat sometimes, but it doesn't mean I should completely ignore her or show concern when something is up. I am not her mother, and never will be, and will never try to be. I have told BM that so she knows. I am only looking out for SD's best interest at heart. I am going to step back quite a bit unless SD feels that she needs me again or my help. Just because she kind of sucks, most of the time, lol doesn't mean I am just going to give up on her. 

BM has some serious issues that I choose not to post on here because I am trying to pick my battles.