OT - Mystery
Thinking about reaching out to Scooby and the gang because it appears there is a mystery afoot. We took BD17 on a trip for her birthday and were gone for several days. BS22 still lives with us but he works full time so is not home during the day. My parents were checking in on our very emotionally needy canine when a package was found left on our outdoor furniture. We have a camera that is by the front door but is only activated if a person walks up to the front door. This package was strategically left further down the path so that the camera would not be activated. It was a very floral bag with a card and flowers left in it. BD17 asked my father is he would open the card to see who it was from. There was a note that read “happy birthday, hoping this year is a good one for you and many blessings in the years to come”, and a heart for the signature.
Exhibit A: the hand writing looks like that of somebody younger, possibly teens-to mid20s.
Exhibit B: the blessings part throws us off because that sounds like it’s coming from an older person more in their 40s-50s.
Exhibit C: They knew not to walk up to the front door to trigger the camera.
Exhibit D: BD17 asked all her friends, dance group, and our extended family in town and nobody is owning up to dropping this off.
After process of elimination DH and I suspect is might be Spawn…but we speculate would she even remember when BD17’s birthday is? Why would she suddenly drop off a gift but not sign it. Okay that is an easy answer, because she believes DH and I would toss the gift away since it’s coming from her (eye roll). Spawn has become very churchy recently so that could explain the “blessings” comment. Reality is we will probably never know unless DH reaches out to Spawn and actually asks her…why would he do that? Pfft it’s so much more fun to just guess and speculate. Other option it’s from somebody DH is “involved with” and they are testing the waters to see what they can get away with. Nothing more fun than being sneaky to see if the “wife” figures it out. So for now it will remain a mystery, but you better believe I’m installing another camera along the path and making sure it has a further range to trigger it.
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Hold up... you think your
Hold up... you think your husband is having an affair and his mistress is dropping off presents for YOUR kid???
My vote is on spawn but I am FLOORED right now!
Things aren’t great in my
Things aren’t great in my marriage and haven’t been for a while, me speculating that is just putting my worst fears out there honestly. I have confronted my DH several times that I am worried he is cheating, his answer is always no. I know there is a woman (co-worker) who I felt was grossly overstepping (texting and calling all the time), she has quieted down in the last couple of months or my DH made her aware, either way I have suspicions. Yes I’ve checked his e-mail and his phone and he shares his location with me no problem, but there is something. It’s hard because I want to believe my DH is just lazy and has chosen the easiest route in our marriage which is basically doing nothing. The other part of me worries that with BD almost aged out he’s decided the grass is greener someplace else, especially now that CS would be off the table in a year.
Ugh considering what I went
Ugh considering what I went through with DH and his ex I know how you feel. Hugs. Even though I know nothing is going on I'm still having nightmares, sigh.
If it is some other ho ... would she know about the camera and if so, would she know how far away is necessary to avoid triggering it? Whoever left the gift knew enough to stay out of range. On the other hand how well does Spawn know the cameras?
The camera is very obvious
The camera is very obvious and you can see it as you walk up the path, but I don't think Spawn or an assumed mistress would know if it was recording them or not. Part of me wonders if it was just one of BD's dance friends and they aren't saying because they like it being a mystery. The other part of me thinks Spawn, but why now? Why after all these years?
It could be! Especially given
It could be! Especially given the handwriting. What about the gift itself? Does that give any clues?
It was just a small vase with
It was just a small vase with some white roses in it, all very feminine including the handwriting.
Is there anything laying
Is there anything laying around with Spawn's handwriting on it for comparison? My guess would be her (or if not, possibly a friend of DD's) but I obviously can't say for sure.
I might have some old
I might have some old birthday cards she signed I can dig up, I will have to check.
I am so sorry you are
I am so sorry you are experiencing these doubts in your marriage.
Damn. I'm sorry. Just goes to
Damn. I'm sorry. Just goes to show that in these shitshow situations of skids, exes, babymammas, etc, the common denominator is the guy and sometimes these guys are just shitty partners.
Yes and my DH is not great
Yes and my DH is not great in relationships. He thinks very old school “I am man, I work, I provide money, I am good husband!” That’s where he stops, so for years I carried all the rest until I started realizing how unhappy I was. Then I stopped putting in as much effort and started asking him to do more. Which at first was good he was trying, then he got a promotion at work and suddenly he became Admiral Dick. He got used to not having people at work question him, he was authority, so at home he started pulling “rank”. Suddenly he’s above all the things that make a partnership and when I would question him he was immediately defensive because he’s Admiral Dick after all. We got through that and then his extra-curricular became his sole focus. Again he’s doing something where he’s not questioned he’s the authority he likes that, so when I ask him for balance in our relationship he defers to his extra-curricular and how much time they take. It’s just gotten more rocky (for me at least) recently because I am home alone more, I don’t have the kids there as much and it’s showing me what my future will be with him. Me home alone while he goes off to play conquering hero and I will never be a priority. Couple that with zero intimacy and my entire self-esteem has been sh@t. My best friend the one who was cheated on has grandbabies to occupy her time, so she’s focused on being grandma, and I’m happy for her for that, but it takes away having somebody else I could go do things with and not feel so left behind.
Yeah, what she ^ said! What
Yeah, what she ^ said! What about your DH makes you think the last option is, well, an option? I will go with it's someone your daughter knows.
Make sure no one but you knows about the new camera.
Make sure no one but you knows about the new camera - and that would include DH!
Holy WTF
Im sorry you are dealing with this. This could be someone mind f*cking with you. Crazy making.
When cheaters get caught or they are asked about an affair they get more cunning. BTDT i have been in relationships with these types of losers.
Maybe the mistress wants to cause havoc and get to you via DD?
Never underestimate the toxic nature of a mistress , that could be male or female.
Blessings and I truly hope I am off base here.
I hope what I am thinking is
I hope what I am thinking is off base honestly. My best friend was blindsided that her husband was cheating on her recently. The only reason she found out is because he came clean one day out of the blue. This couple has always been the super lovey, really affectionate couple so I was shocked that he did this. It really threw me off because I was always jealous of how affectionate they were with each other and how they just always seemed so happy with no issues.
My money is on Spawn.
My money is on Spawn.
I'm sorry you're going
I'm sorry you're going through this :/. If spawn has gone holy and is having the baby soon I vote her.
Another vote
For Spawn. Somehow the religious greeting and affair doesn't gel.
I am team Spawn on this one.
Hopefully that is the case.
Update: I checked to see if
Update: I checked to see if we have anything saved with Spawns handwriting and nothing. BD17 even looked through a bunch of her stuff and nope...so I can't compare handwriting...damnit!
Also DH still has the letter she sent all those year ago, it's typed, or course!
Darn, any tags or stickers on
Darn, any tags or stickers on th vase bottom? I assume it came from a florist... seems strange though to put it in a gift bag... but maybe depending on the area and how many florists are in the area you're in you could show them a picture and ask if they sell them?
It came from a grocery store
It came from a grocery store that much I know because it's the same vases I have seen them using for their floral displays. DH finally asked last night if he should text Spawn to find out, I told him it was up to him, but that a lot of people (lol) were invested in finding out who it came from.