Well, it's been a while ( and that's an understatement!).

I suddenly remembered this forum this morning, as Christmas approaches and I thought of you all.. blended and not-so-blended families, all trying to do the right thing.

I wanted to let you all know that there is a light on the other side. SS is now 27 and married, SD is 25 and living in her first home she bought last year. I am actually very proud of them, they work hard and look after themselves, they have good jobs and have done very well for themselves.

I now have two children, 6 and 4, and life is pretty good. We barely see the skids and I don't think my children are very aware they are so closely related! When we do get together it's fun, happy, family time.

I have come to terms with the fact I don't really like my skids as people. This, and the distance we have means I can now concentrate on the good I see - SS is very funny, can be very thoughtful and is a very diligent worker. SD also keeps a difficult job, she is very strong and capable and also can be kind.

There is a light. The time we have to spend under one roof is hell, your mental health may teeter in the edge of destruction, but it doesn't last forever. Keep faith my glorious step mums/dads. You are doing the best you can, it is unlikely to ever be appreciated but don't beat yourself up over anything. It's not worth it. I still remember my mantra from the time;

"Live for today,

Learn from yesterday,

Hope for tomorrow."

Peace and love xx