Stepmoms at risk for violence (trigger warning!)
Just read a story on a young woman named Hanoi Peralta, 33 years old and stabbed to death. I initially read that she was murdered by her son, but after doing some digging, it was actually her stepson (media accounts are incorrect). The 19 year old murdered his dad, stepmom and 5 year old brother.
I feel that if it were the stepmom committing the crimes, the media would sensationalize it exactly that way, but I have yet to see the story written that the stepchild commits a crime. They referred to the killer as a teenager and the father's son (most stories I read so far have it that he's their child).
It just made me think about how dangerous it can be to fall in love with someone, and not knowing if their children will turn out to hate you. Here's the link for anyone who wants to read it. Truly sad.
https://people.com/teen-charged-murders-dad-brother-boys-mom-stabbed-bro...
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I’m of the same mind
Story has it that he heard voices that day, as per BM. He went to BM after her murdered the 3, so wondering if she told him to say that, because we all know pleading insanity gives you a better shot of getting away with murder.
Also wondering why those voices didn't tell him to kill BM. It smells off, I think he probably was being PASed by BM, and this was the result.
Woke has absolutely nothing to
To do with this. Untreated mental illness is the scourge of our time. It drives the epidemics of homelessness and addiction in the U.S., both a result of political decisions that put lower tax rates over the general well being of its citizens. How someone defines their sexuality or family relationships is immaterial. And by the way I would far rather be woke than not.
We have none of the details in this situation, we don't know the cause, only, sadly the result.
Funny
We never had all this mental illness, a lot of which is just plain evil from being raised without rules and as royalty, 20 yrs ago. And that was during the hayday of divorce. You have to admit permissiveness has jumped exponentially since everyone can do what they want without fear of punishment (ex shoplifting).
Yes we did
We just didn't hear about. And there has been an increase of 13% globally but that is attributed to many factors, including better reporting, economic factors, etc.. poor, permissive parenting is not new.
My aunt had her step son
My aunt had her step son kicked out when he threatened to kill her. Not sure if he was joking or what but she didn't risk it and told her husband his son had to go
IDK. I'll be damned I meet my demise from some ingrate unstable stepkid or bio kid
The media
Often supresses stories that don't fit "the narrative." This includes social media and not just news casting.
Everyone loves to paint SM as eeeevvvviiiil but the truth is that BMs and skids are more likely to commit heinous acts of violence against SMs and their half siblings mostly out of pure enraged jealousy.
The danger is real. The
The danger is real. The things I've learned on the delightful stepparent journey would make me think twice about doing it all over again.
Except
The mere presence of a gun in the home greatly increases the odds that the gun will be used in an act of domestic violence, the greatest likelihood is that it will be against a woman. That is an indisputable fact.
I live in a high crime
I live in a high crime violent city (unless you're in a super wealthy part of town and crime is so bad even the wealthy parts are not immune to violent crime)
Men, women....heck even kids are toting g*ns
Every man/woman/and kid for themselves
It's a cold world over here
Nah if someone is a threat to
Nah if someone is a threat to your life (no matter what age) they gotta go.
Reminds me of the war torn countries where kids as young as 9 were toting major weapons and taking peoples lives. And the men in military over there had to kill those kids or be killed.
My aunt threatened all of her sons (including step sons) that she would shoot them if they tried to cause her physical harm. Fighting the elderly could kill them so I get it. Not sure if she really would but they never tried it. And her husband sent his son to his mothers house (permanently) for both of their sake.
Unfortunately, the stepparent
Unfortunately, the stepparent often becomes the flash point of all the child's frustrations. All their anger at their parents.. the reason their life isn't going as they wish it would.. is because of the stepparent. It's safer to be angry at them than the parent (emotionally).
I would also say that it can also be fed by a bio parent's inability to parent.. to push parental responsibility onto their new spouse.
It also can be impacted by a step parent that may wade in and want the house to run "their way".. while not really reading the room and making sure that change and progress happens through their spouse and in a gradual and meaningful way vs big changes and lots of rules and lists etc..
These people have
Mental unstable kids. What they keep at home instead of putting them away. That what's happens. Sure this wasn't the first time
Where exactly could they put them
Long term that wouldn't bankrupt the family? I wonder how long/hard the parents/stepparents liked for help and found none? I wonder what kind of pharmaceuticals this kid was dosed with from a young age? I wonder what the family dynamic was, how it got to this point? Unfortunately for this family any help is too late.
I agree. There are a lot of
I agree. There are a lot of people who are so mentally ill that they will never be able to function in society. Every so often you hear about one killing their family or some random stranger on the subway or out in public. Setting them loose on the streets or in the homes of unequipped family members was a huge mistake, not only for their potential victims but also for the mentally ill people themselves. Those individuals are often victimized by others, too. You see them every day in large cities. Some keep to themselves but some harass people. It's awful.
Links read
the stories read one way, but we know there always more to it...
Sometimes I wonder how many
Sometimes I wonder how many of the more toxic BMs on this forum would incite violence like this given the opportunity. By either a gullible SO or Skid.
Knowing what I do about Satan, I have no doubt she's dropped hints to Mealicket, and now that Killjoy lives with her fulltime, she's PASing the living snot out of her now too. They're both psychopaths.
I keep my doors locked and cameras on.
When i met my husband, his 2 daughters had ceased
All contact and disappeared. They were 7 & 17. It was about 5.5 yrs no contact and us already married 3.5 yrs with 2 kids under 2 that they reconnected out of the blue.
I saw the warning signs of sd's and exwife (who had married her affair guy), even more so the disrespect and harm sd's were doing towards my kids and myself
i refused to wait and stick around hoping for the best. It took almost a year before out of the blue eldest sd calls daddy fake crying how he abandoned her and marrying me and having kids with me was him replacing them.
it was then i told my husband how i saw this long ago but since he and his family are delusional and hoping for the best, i removed myself and my kids from every bein in sd's presence.
the moment you lie and fake things and give your dad an ultimatum to dump me and our 2 toddlers because you're a narcissistic petty bitch, you don't enter my home or household. I shut you out.
hubby manages any relationship with them privately. I wasn't gonna wait around because they showed their true colours. If those red flags are up, they're up for a reason