So, SD has been away at college and we have had super limited contact which has been amazing!  The few times we have had to see her....

!).  We went to Parent's Weekend at her college (it is about 5 hours away).  She and her "boyfriend" (will discuss this in a bit) had lunch with us on Friday and that was pretty much the amount of time she spent with us.  We sat down at lunch and she immediately said that my sorority is a bunch of drunk sluts and all they do is party.  ;)  BM was also on campus that weekend... so you can imagine how lovely that was.

2).  SD was here for two nights at Thanksgiving and her "boyfriend" came down for Thanksgiving dinner.  SD was sneaking alcohol and got a little tipsy. Which was nice because she slept in very late the next day. 

3).  Christmas came and she came down..."forgetting" the gift for her dad  ...but she snatched up all the gifts he purchased for her.  She "forgot" his birthday gift too.  Her boyfriend came in wearing an expensive jacket (Barbour) and stated that SD gave it to him for Christmas.  SD also had gifts for her mom sent to our home.  I felt bad for DH-but he created this selfish monster.

SD had been dating the boyfriend for about a year and he frankly was a super sweet guy.  She walked all over him, telling him what he could and couldn't eat, bossy as heck, controlling and manipulative.  When she was focused on him...it was nice bc she left me alone.  Being the wonderful person she is...that relationship ended.  She cheated on him , then slept with a different guy (one night stand-not the one she was cheating with), then the original guy she cheated with dumped her...so, she is all alone. 

So roll into this week and Spring Break.  She stated to my husband that she couldn't go on Spring Break bc she didn't have money and didn't want to ask for any bc she was cut off.  DH finally held her a little accountable and cut her off for the semester.  He gives her about $200 a month in spending money.  She is so manipulative- trying to make him feel bad.  The truth was that she wasn't invited on spring break.  So while she was here she was a total monster. 

She really blew up when she figured out that her roommate follows me on social media and that we are connected.  The roommate's mom and I have become friendly (she hates SD's mother) and we are all connected on social media.  SD was in her room talking to somone on the phone saying "can you believe that f"*king B*$ch is following MY BEST FRIEND.  What the F*ck".  She is very aware that voices carry in this house and she knew what she was doing.  Long story short but she created so much drama that my daughter is done with her...too.   There was no reason to react the way she did.  My assumption is that she doesn't want her roommate to tell me the things she says about me bc then her dad might cut her off for longer periods. I know that she says horrible things about me- the roommate sent me a message and told me that she doesn't put up with her bs and defends me.  She paints a picture that I'm horrid- but in reality, that isn't the case.  When people get to know me...they see through her lies. She hates that. 

She is coming back in two weeks for Easter Break...I've been on the phone trying to find a therapist to get my husband in front of and figure out how to handle this pyschopath.  She apparently told her roommates that she smacked a girl across the face so hard that she almost got expelled from high school....my husband and I iknew nothing about it.  BM hid that.  I'm not surprised after how she behaves, coming unhinged, and not to mention kicking my dog and injuring him.  

Am just getting this all out, because it is theraputic and hearing comments sometimes is helpful.  Thanks and hope everyone is having a stress free step kid free day!   On another note, I've been battling health issues for the past three years....when she hasn't been around...I've imporoved so incredibly much.  Today, I'm in bed dealing with a rebound and it all came back when she started her drama.

- PPML