Please read history blogs to see what I'm facing. Hubby will not change.  He works most of the time we have sd unless it's the weekend.  Saturdays are a break cause he takes her to hockey for approx 6h a day and I'm home with the 2 Littles.  But I guess it's not a break really, just a break from them. I have 2 issues this week.  First, my dh has let me sleep in maybe (and this is generous) 10 times in 10 years.  I get up with the kids.  This is partly my fault because when they get up, I get up.  If I don't, he gives them their tablets and goes back to sleep.  To me, that's not taking care of the kids.  Anyways, a few weeks ago he got up at 745 to go watch sd play hockey for the whole day.  He wore up early And left.  Now I had a problem with that based on the fact he has Never got up early for me. DH has also never took the 2 Littles by himself anywhere until last week where he took them to sd hockey game (our weekend, he had to take her. I worked night shift so he had to take them) but then he called wondering when I was gonna show up cause the 2 Littles are a handful.  Today, (not our weekend with sd) I worked last night so I'm supposed to be asleep.  Sd has a hockey tournament out of town, so he got up early and took the 2 Littles and off he went.  Man I would love if this person gave me the attention he gives sd. Since hockey started, even our off weekend are filled with sd hockey. 

Secondly.  Sd had a math test Friday that she barely studied for all week.  Bd6 had homework.  I had to cook supper.  And it all had to be done in a timely manner cause of hockey practice. Bd6 gets tired early so I always do her homework before supper. Thursday she had to write a story.  So while I was helping her with that (spelling, storytelling, punctuation and letter size) and cook supper , keep bd2 occupied, I also wrote out a study guide of questions for sd11 to complete. All fine and dandy. Bd got homework done.Sd did math.  I corrected it and told her to fix her mistakes. Supper was cooked, we ate.  I told sd to do her required 20 minutes of reading.  She didn't.  I reminded her 10 minutes later that she still hasn't started.  DH arrives home.  Sd asked if she could go to watch hockey game before her practice. Dh looks at me and I say she still got 10 minutes of reading left. And I point out that she would have been done if she started when she was told.  Then I go to recheck the math she had fixed.  NOT DONE. So I had to tell her about that.  She didn't end up going to hockey game.  WIN. Or so I thought.  She gets home and DH overhears me speaking to her about something she "lost" but actually didn't look for and he DONT like my tone.  I'm frustrated AF by now.  So he asks SD how she feels about how I talk to her and guess what, she don't like it.  No shit. She don't like how I'm always "calling her out" . So she's there literally throwing me under a bus and I'm defending myself as to why I call her out on stuff (I'm home, she's not listening to me, etc) and he just sits there.  So I looked at him and said anytime you want to jump in.  So he says she should listen but I should be more direct.  So I got to threaten her every time I say something ?? Also, she's immature and don't have any responsibility bc her mom literally does Everything for her so it's Not her Fault! Immaturity is not remembering stuff.  Not "I'm not listening until I'm good and ready.  If ever." 

Rant over.  Thanks for reading.  I'm not going to leave. Please tell me where I'm wrong.  Or validate I'm not.  I'm just ready to not do anything for sd anymore.  Pick up, homework, practice, anything.  But if  I don't do it, and dh is working, WHO DOES?