Still a Waiting Game - Getting tired and frustrated
Still waiting to hear whether FRO will enforce child support payments or not. We've been waiting for 3 months and still no word. This is apparently normal due to FRO and the courts being back logged.
Those not familiar, SD18 had never finished a year of high school. BM forced her to go back but via different programs that are considered full time BUT allows the student to learn at their own pace - meaning she could attend school 1 day a week or 5 days a week, she could stay for an hour or a full day. Either way she gets marked as being there every day, full time as long as she steps into the classroom once in a week. Yep that's right from the school VP's mouth. Read previous posts to see the "program" that she's in and how we got here.
But it's also discouraging considering SS18 is expected to now graduate in June and still no word meaning this could drag on even while SD18 has already graduated and DH would have to pay through the motion to change (if it comes to that) and court proceedings. So even IF the court decides that he shouldn't be paying or have been paying...there really isn't any recourse for getting his money back. He could sue BM to return all of the money. But, we all know she will have spent it as soon as she gets it. And because she doesn't work, there is no way to get the money back.
DH had a chat with SD18 this past week where she told him that BM told her that DH wasn't living up to his obligations and owes her for CS since October. DH decided to lay it out for SD18 and told her that BM and her lawyer are lying - that BM claims that SS18 is going to school on a full time basis when we all know she isn't. SD18 confirmed that she now goes to school a few hours a day if that. And not every day. She wasn't aware that BM was lying. We'll be letting our lawyer know that SD18 confirmed she isn't going to school full time. And more than likely if we go to court, she'll be called to the stand. I'm wondering, would our lawyer have to disclose to BM's lawyer who he wants to bring to the stand? If BM knows ahead of time, she'll coach SD18 to lie. But if SD18 is caught off guard, I know that she would have a harder time lying because BM wouldn't make her follow a script.
We also found out this past month that BM is now claiming she is psychic medium! She has posted on her FB page (screen shot of it sent to us from a mutual friend) where she states that she took a tarot card reading class and that she can put people in touch with their loved ones who have passed over. To reach out to schedule a reading with her. BUT she doesn't offer/include any rates. I have some friends watching some of the FB Mom's groups to see if she posts anything.
Suffice it to say...this has been going on for far too long and I just wish FRO would respond so that we know a way forward and can plan accordingly. Sigh.
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I'm afraid that your SD will
I'm afraid that your SD will have already clued mom into what she told you.. and what you told her.. I don't think the lawyer will be able to surprise her at this point.
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I'm sorry you are going through this, it sounds like a lot to deal with. I hope it gets resolved sooner, rather than later and you receive a fair and eqitable judgement. Blessings to you.
It's crazy to have to
It's crazy to have to forcibly emancipate a legal adult, though. At some point, "child support until high school graduation" doesn't make sense. It's crazy if a BM can just have the skid drag out high school into their 20s.
I'm guessing that even
I'm guessing that even through your "brain fart", your parents still made you actually attend school. The skid in this case didn't pass because she didn't go. BM didn't make her go, though that's part of what she's paid to do. She's trying to get paid more/longer for a job she's not doing.
It’s a good think that SD
Is trying to finish High School., she must not of attended HS very offen to not to graduate . As a adult she should be attending on her own dime . Not yours l. Best of luck
good thing
If SD actually wanted to finish HS, it would be a good thing. However, in this instance, me thinks BM actually encouraged SD's non attendance for another year of CS.
It sounds like the CS rule there is the same as here. CS ends at 18, except if the child has not finished high school. Then it ends at 19.. 19 was made the age when compulsory attendance started at 7. 7 + 12 years of school = 19.
My bet is that SD will finish this year. While not unheard of, it's almost impossible to fail the program she is in.
@Rags Military School...if
@Rags Military School...if only!
And yes @notarelative BM never encouraged or pushed SD to finish a year of high school. Baffling for sure. And if DH or I did encourage or push, we were turned on/punished - told that we give SD anxiety, have high expectations (to graduate????), then SD would stop coming to our home on DH's time. So I could see, especially when SD turned 17, that BM figured how she could continue to get CS after SD turned 18 - she and her lawyer had two options: 1) Force SD to go back to school in some kind of capacity and claim she is attending full time - which is what we are currently arguing because she has not been attending full time at all; or b) claim that SD has medical issues that would render her unable to take care of herself - which they also tried to claim and when DH and our lawyer pushed back asking what medical issues SD has that would render her that way and to provide medical records, doctors' records, etc...crickets. SD does not have severe medical issues, she has a sore back from poor posture and not doing anything, but that doesn't mean she can't take care of herself and get a job. BM has convinced her that with her back "problems", that she could only ever work part time. SD hasn't even bothered to look for a job in the last year thanks to BM. It's really quite sad.