I did a lot of thinking yesterday about some possibilities that could be causing SS to act this way when being dropped off at school by BM. One of the things that came to mind is that she's trying to PAS SS with DH. I mean all it would really take is something along the lines of, "it makes mommy really sad when you leave for daddy's house and it makes mommy cry when you're not around because mommy misses you so much." SS may not realize the difference between going to school and going to daddy's when he's with mommy. So I decided to sit down with SD and ask her if there was something that maybe mommy was saying that might be causing SS to act this way.

She told me that BM always tells them that if they don't call she will be sad and that she will miss them while they are gone. So basically nothing that bad unless SS gets a special speech when SD isn't around.

The alarming thing that SD told me is that her stepfather gets so mad at her when BM leaves her alone with him that she's afraid that he is going to hit her. She told me she went to her mother about it but her stepfather just lied about it. She told me that he only treats her this way when BM isn't around and it's only her that he treats this way. I told DH about it and he approached her she told him the same thing. DH made it clear to her that nobody should make her feel that way and she shouldn't be afraid in her own home. He also told her that the next time this happens that she needs to call him. When I was leaving her bedroom she stopped me and asked me if we were going to tell BM. I told her yes, that we had to. SD looked really scared at that point and toldme that she is going to get in trouble for telling us. This isn't the first complaint that she has come to us about. She told us a couple of weeks ago that her stepfather was calling her a little sh!t and a little b!tch. When DH confronted BM she denied it and then came back and told DH that stepfather admitted up to it but he told SD that he was sorry.

After that I approached SS and asked him if he feels the same way and he told me no. So I started asking him why he doesn't want to go to school on BM's week and he pretty much told me that he likes school but he knows that he doesn't have to go on BM's week that all he has to do is freak out, kick, and hit and he doesn't have to go.

What do we do. I told DH last night that he needs to look into getting temporary custody of the kids right now until BM can get her sh!t figured out. If she's divorcing this guy like she said she was in August of this year then she needs to get him out of the house. It's not fair to SD to be treated this way because BM hasn't kicked this guy out yet. And it's not fair to SS that BM can't manage to get him to go to school because she can't control him. DH tends to avoid this subject so I told him last night that this is something that we ARE going to talk about.

My question, to any of you that have been following my story, is do we have the grounds to take temporary custody of the kids? SS is having violent freak outs when BM drops him off. She's calling the cops on him to parent for her. SS is assaulting people including the cop. BM refuses to stop dropping SS off at school herself instead of finding an alternative for the moment until she can get her sh!t together. SS's going to get kicked out of school if he continues to freak out like this. SD is being put through hell with her stepfather. We have offered on many occassions to take the kids until she can get this guy out of the house and we have even offered her makeup time for however long it takes. This guy has SD afraid of him and she feels like he is going to hit her sometimes because he gets so mad. Can we do it? Do we have the grounds? Should I have CPS do a wellness check on the kids when they are with BM?

Any advise any of you can offer would be greatly appreciated.