It's been a long time since I have been on here. Took a break from some negativity. But am in need some advice of an over dramatic SD8.

SD8 is always causing problems with SD's 13, 12 & 4. She is over dramatic about everything. She can cry on cue and can even fake cry as well. She always claims she feels left out by her sisters. So for a while we got after SD's 4,12 & 13 about including her. Then we found out the real issue is that if they don't let SD8 have her way she goes off and pouts or cries and then gets them in trouble so they don't want to play with someone who is going to demand to always have her way or else face getting into trouble by the parents.

Since then we have tried to ignore SD8's little spells when she cries. By telling her to deal with it her self with her sisters. They end up getting mad at each other and yelling half the time. It's usually because she felt someone looked at her funny or didnt include her or that the SD4 is loving up on SD12 too much. All crap I can't control. Stupid things.

I and SO both have had many many talks with each of them. Tried having family meetings to deal with issues. Let them call out each family member on things they did or do that hurt them. We tried having the two fighting spend the extra time together. I am out of ideas.

SD8 is starved for attention all the time from SO and I and any other family member that comes by. We have to tell her to get off of us because she is clinging to us at all times if we let her. She has to be told to back off and share grandpa and grandma. She fights her sisters to sit by, walk by and hold her dads hand or mine. Anything to have attention and physical contact.

I have a feeling she is crying out for attention she is not getting or feels neglected for some reason. Now previously BM kept her away from SO for three years and when she turned 7 SO finally got a court order enforced. He always was her primary care giver before that ( long story). Her BM was not one to show affection to her. Plus she has 5 kids. Two from first marriage , one from second marriage with SO, and now 2 with third Marriage. She is the middle child that gets stuck with what's left over. SO stated even as a baby BM did not have a special bond with SD8.

Here is another example of the issues. We were at the mall killing time before our movie started. SO took the kids to get coffee for us and hot chocolate for kids while I checked out a store. They came into the store and SD4 and SD12 shared a chair while SD8 had her own ( only two chairs) out the lil one with the big one so she can watch her while he helped me for a few min pick out a coat. We were out in 10 min. Kids didn't say much or move. They had a large hot chocolate they were sharing equally and doing well. We were right there too. Small store. Then we went next door to a jewelry store and as soon as the lady came up to me SD8 was balling her eyes out and when asked what happened SD12 said IDK. She tried to ask her when she was walking to the next store cuz she was pouting but said 'nothing'.
SO took the kids and sat in the food court to have a meeting. Canceled the movie and I went shopping. I normally sit in on this stuff but I had already had enough and he needed to deal with it and he knew it. Plus I had things to shop for.
This is what SD 8 had to say. SD 12 sat on her. ( not sure when or how cuz SD4 was on her lap and she had her own chair). And then SD12 looked at her funny. She also said as she was balling her eyes out as she said " I am having a mental break down right now " SO asked her if she even knew what that meant. She said " when everything just builds up and I just let it go and have to cry" ( where she got that from I don't know, she is 8 years old )
Basically he talked to them about the same things we said before. These are your sisters. All you have. If there is an issue come to us if you can't resolve it. Stop being so dramatic all the time. Crying gets you no where.

I don't know what she was trying to do , get SD12 in trouble or what. The thing is we do not have problems with SD 12 ever. She is always the one who gives up her treat if its the last one to avoid a fight. She is the peace keeper. The mom of the four. She doesn't cause problems. She wasn't near her sister to cause the issue. She always gives up her stuff for her sisters. Lets them go first. Lets them sit in the front so there isn't a fight. She hates fights. She always gets taken advantage of cuz her sisters know she will give in to keep the peace. Laid back and easy going.

Does anyone have any insite or suggestions. Please be respectful with comments.